Want a FREE Ticket to the D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit?
I’ve got an exciting announcement that I am so stoked about!
Registration is officially OPEN for the 2024 Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit! And the best part? It’s FREE!!!
This jam-packed 4 days of BDSM education kicks off on April…
Electroplay for Pain & Pleasure – New Online BDSM Class 9/28/23
Hi, Friends! I’ve got a ⚡shocking⚡ announcement: On Thursday 9/28/23 I'm teaching Electroplay for Pain & Pleasure and I’d love for you to join me! This virtual class is hosted by Sanctuary LAX’s Academy of Erotic Arts Online 🤗
❓What’s…
A No B.S. Approach to Kink – Online BDSM Class
Mark your calendars for Wednesday 8/30! Join me for my virtual BDSM class, A No B.S. Approach to Kink hosted by Bloom🤗
❓What’s covered? Here’s the BDSM class description:
Curious about kink? Or perhaps you’re an experienced…
Win an Eddie 2-pack & Access to Giddy’s ED Educational Program – $249 value!
Safety for Escorts and Clients is a Two Way Street
Is there a way to avoid fakes, ripoffs, and catfishing when looking for an escort? On the other side of the coin, how do experienced providers ensure their safety and know clients they are meeting aren't bad actors? These common worries in…
Tantric Sex: How to Give Your Partner an Hour Long Orgasm
A passionate sex life keeps us happy, healthy and connected to a partner. However, for many, satisfaction in the bedroom doesn’t come naturally. Many people struggle to achieve orgasm due to negative sexual emotions, low self-confidence, premature…
I Edited a New Book Called “How to Get Laid Using Your Intuition” by Susanna Brisk
I have a very exciting announcement--I just edited my first book! I've done my fair share of editing in the past but for shorter pieces like blog posts or educational content on sexuality websites. This is my very first whole, entire book.…
Beginner Bondage: Honey, Can We Get a Little Knotty Tonight?
A guest post by Gray "Dancer" Miller
It’s a lot easier than it used to be.
There was a time when “that kinky stuff” was a deal breaker in relationships, considered “sick” and “perverted” (and that’s the nice way to put it).…
Sensory Deprivation & Sensation Play: A Perfect Pairing
Do you consider yourself among the kink-curious? Are you someone who’s interested in trying something a little kinky, but aren’t quite sure where to begin? Does the thought of BDSM get your juices flowing but at the same time is a bit intimidating?…
4 Steps for Choosing Your First Vibrator
When it comes to self-pleasuring, the toys and sex gear you use can make or break your experience. For people with vulvas, the right vibrator can help you achieve different types of orgasms and teach you how to be comfortable with the way your…
Our G-spot Live Demo Class
In 99.9% of our sex classes we don't do x-rated live demos. There are a few reasons for this. First of all, many of the sexual techniques we teach take repeated practice to master. I often say mastering the g-spot, for example, isn't…
BDSM for Beginners Video Series
This four part BDSM 101 video series is designed to get you up to speed on kink/BDSM so you can start constructing your first scene. We cover:
BDSM defined (good chance it's not exactly what you've been lead to believe by the media!)
How…
Everything you Need to Know About Butt Plugs
This three part video series is a quick and thorough butt plug primer. In it I cover:
What is a butt plug
Types of butt plugs
How to select the right butt plug for you
Why do butt plugs feel good?
How are butt plugs be used for…
The Fundamentals of BDSM
From the outside looking in, a typical BDSM scene may appear to be a one-sided affair in which the dominant gets to do whatever they want to the submissive. To the unknowing eye, things like spanking, objectification, or erotic humiliation seem abusive. If these actions are done properly within the framework of BDSM, however, they are anything but.
My New BDSM Articles on Sexpert.com
I’m very excited to announce I’m writing regularly for sexpert.com now! Every two weeks or so expect a new article about kink. This isn’t just any BDSM series either. Each article is designed to build upon the last and will give you a solid BDSM 101 foundation and useable guide.
Lelo HUGO Prostate Vibrator Review
Ken and I reviewed the Lelo HUGO prostate vibrator. I’m just going to cut to the chase-- LOVE! Love, love, love, love, love! HUGO is silicone, has 2 motors, is waterproof, rechargeable, and is remote controlled. The things that really sold us on this prostate vibrator was the power and functioning plus the SenseMotion remote control feature.
The Surprising Health Benefits of BDSM
It’s only been a couple of years since the medical industry decided participation in fetishism and sadomasochism was no longer considered a mental disorder. It’s no surprise there aren’t many long term and older studies about BDSM. Thankfully, in recent years, researchers have started seriously studying the effects of BDSM and their findings are surprising (well, surprising to the researchers-- many BDSM practitioners have always known it was doing something good!)
I’m a 2016 XBIZ Sexpert of the Year Nominee!
I’ve been nominated for the 2016 XBIZ Sexpert of the Year award! I’m honored and flattered to be included with so many wonderful educators. Please vote for me and all of your favorite sexperts!
Black Friday & Cyber Monday Sex Toy Sales
This post will link you to all the Black Friday & Cyber Monday sex toy sales-- some have even started already! I'm also expecting a number of flash sales to pop up throughout Cyber Monday so as they get added I'll add them to the top of the list here so check back daily!
Genital Clamps: The Penis & Testicles Edition
Clamping doesn't have to be painful. It’s not uncommon for men to enjoy tugging their scrotum while stroking their penis. Many find this pressure very arousing and that it helps bring on orgasm. Weight added from placing light clamps on the scrotum can give this same effect while leaving both hands free.
Is Masturbation Harmful?
I received a question from a reader earlier today. He asked: "Hi Sunny, I was wondering if masturbation is harmful? I do it every single day, sometimes twice. A lot of times I feel tired afterward too, is this bad? Am I masturbating too much? "
A Tour of the Most Magical Place on Earth: Hustler Hollywood
I took tour of the amazing Hustler Hollywood flagship store! Perhaps you've never been to a sex store at all or maybe just not to one of such epic proportions? This place is as big as a grocery store and even has a coffee shop inside!
Genital Anatomy for Sexual Pleasure
Most of us think we know quite a bit about our genitals but do we really? Familiarizing ourselves with the internal structures of what's in our pants is the first step in learning to give and receive more satisfying pleasure.
Verspanken Review: Is It The Best Male Masturbator?
The men said the Verspanken Water Wieners resembled everything from Janice from the Muppet's lips to bumpy pickles and everything in between. But did it get the job done and get it done well?
Advanced Neon & Violet Wand Play
This article will give you lots of clever ideas and introduce you to new tools that will take your wand play to the next level. I discuss techniques for direct, indirect, and reverse play including: violet wand rope, Edison adapters, knife play alternatives, conductive metals, and a lot more!
Glass Dildo Review with Lady Cheeky
Back in 2013 I was honored to "pop" Lady Cheeky's (a.k.a Elle Chase) "glass cherry," so to speak. We both used Doc Johnson's Reflections Serenity and Reflections Cool to mixed results.
Viagra for Women: Is Flibanserin all it’s cracked up to be?
Is Flibanserin really Viagra for women? That description is misleading. It also has a number of concerning side effects. Find out what it does and doesn't do and how you can produce its effects on your own without drugs.
Anal Gaping for the Masses
In the extremely under researched world of bizarre anal acts, gaping is one of the least understood. Learn about it first hand from XXX star Casey Calvert plus get 8 essential steps to achieving anal gape.
Counterfeit Vibrators: Is your Hitachi Magic Wand Fake?
One of the most counterfeited toys is the "Cadillac of vibrators" we all know and love, The Original Magic Wand. The Magic Wand has been a staple of the American orgasm diet for 30 years and it remains one of the most popular vibrators. It turns out over 95% of the Magic Wands sold on Amazon and eBay are straight up fakes. Wow! How do you know if yours is fake and how can you find a truly authentic product?
Sunny & Ken on Sex with Emily Podcast!
When we were in Los Angeles Ken and I popped in the studio to record a Sex with Emily podcast! We talked about blow job hacks, getting into kink, open relationships, answered listener questions & so much more. I can't even keep track of all we talked about!
Sunny & Ken Featured in Jezebel & Crowned “BDSMs Friendliest Couple”
Jezebel reporter, Mark Shrayber, says we're "BDSMs Friendliest Couple." Yes, we may beat the crap out of you but we'll give you a cupcake afterward ;)
Booty Call Booty Vibro Kit Review
This is a wonderful, inexpensive, versatile anal kit. It can be used as a vibrating toy, a non-vibrating toy, or an extended wear plug. It’s perfect for either new or experienced butt-players. Better yet, it’s made from non-porous, seamless silicone which is a must, especially for an anal toy.
Power Play Flickering Tongue Review
It’s easy to hold, small enough to use during partnered sex, and exceptionally inexpensive, averaging around $15 online. Not bad for a powerful, silicone toy! If you like buzzy, “pinpointy” power that won’t break the bank, look into adding the Powerplay Flickering Tongue to your collection.
Sunny Megatron on Full Disclosure Podcast: The Great Blow Job Debate
Are blow jobs fun to give or a chore? Eric Barry invited Mary Zee-- a lover of fellatio, Michelle Yoder-- a disliker of blow jobs and me-- a former hater but now enthusiastic member of #TeamBlowJob, to debate it out on the Full Disclosure Podcast.
4 Must-Haves for Phenomenal First Time Pegging
Is pegging something you’d like to try? You and your partner may find it’s an act that not only brings you closer together but unlocks orgasm potential you never knew possible.
BDSM for Beginners in 5 Simple Steps
How can you be sure you don’t hurt each other or overstep boundaries? What’s the best way bring each other’s fantasies to life? What do you try first? The unknowns can be overwhelming. If you take it step by step, however, you can easily figure out if BDSM is right for you and determine what flavor you prefer.
Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg at Sexual Health Expo in Phoenix
Great news, Arizona! Ken and I are teaching a 50 Shades of Grey inspired BDSM 101 class at the Sexual Health Expo (a.k.a. SHE) on April 25th, 2015! As a gift to you, my friends get 2-for-1 tickets to SHE. Simply use my Sexual Health Expo coupon code!
4 Blowjob Tips for Steak & Blowjob Day
No one really knows the origin of Steak and Blow Job day. According to internet legend, the date of this holiday, March 14th, is a nod to Valentine’s Day which falls exactly one month before.
Fifty Shades Valentine’s Day Toy Guide
It’s no coincidence the Fifty Shades of Grey movie opens Valentine's day weekend. The movie folks know it’s the perfect sexy date night film. So what happens when the movie is over and you’re inspired to copy a few moves from Christian and Anna’s playbook?
Where to Find Online Orgy Websites as seen on Sex with Sunny Megatron
An internet orgy is by invite only. It's usually set up by social media and the invite list is closely monitored. Usually everybody knows each other. What you'll need is a good computer, webcasting service, and a high speed internet connection.
Embrace Body Wand Review
I am in love with the entire Embrace vibrator line! All soft, silky, premium silicone plus the power and function can’t be beat. The Embrace Body Wand? WIN!
Disclosing Your Kinks to Your Doctor
What if there are repercussions as a result of that doctor finding out exactly how you got those bruises all over your ass? What if they judge or shame you? What if their biases affect the quality of care they give you?
Dollification and Relaxed Clitoral Orgasms
The first time I had an orgasm being relaxed, calm, and breathing deeply it was an amazing experience. I hadn’t realized before that during all of my previous orgasms my pelvic floor and entire body was clenched, I was white knuckled, grinding my teeth, and holding my breath. All of those things going in in different parts of my body detracted from what my genitals were feeling.
Sex with Sunny Megatron #Recharge Discussion Video
Each week following the airing of a new Sex with Sunny Megatron episode I post follow-up videos on my youtube page. The discussion video for episode 1 is up and embedded below. The theme of episode 1 is #Recharge and in the video I talk a little about the episode and suggest additional ways you can recharge your sex life.
Electrify Your Orgasms: TENS Units for Beginners
Curious about using electricity to get off? Afraid to try because you don’t want to fry your naughty bits? Have no fear! While electrosex devices are sometimes used for BDSM pain play, they can also be an exciting, painless, and surprisingly safe way to bring yourself to mindblowing orgasm.
And no, it won't hurt. Often portrayed as complicated, tortuous devices, electrosex toys are actually quite simple to operate and offer an infinite palette of sensations. Their adjustability makes them versatile enough to use for pain play or gentle, erotic titillation.
Four Sexy Taboos to Explore this Halloween
Sexual taboos are different for everyone. We all have things we absolutely won’t do, however, most of us also have a few naughty, unmentionable, and totally hot taboos that really turn us on. These are the things we’ve been itching to try but because they are a little *ehemm* different, may seem too awkward to bring up to a partner. Halloween can be the perfect time to dive into some of these unchartered waters. Here are 4 sexy taboos that you can explore this October:
Dear Facebook, #MyNameIs Sunny Megatron
Despite Chris Cox, Facebook’s VP of Product, stating yesterday that everyone has the right to use their “authentic identity” rather than their legal name on Facebook, I woke up this morning locked out of my account. A message popped up stating I had to provide a “government issued ID” to change my name back to the only name I've used for many years.
Shock Your Sex Life: Electrosex for Couples
Think electric sex play is only for people who enjoy pain? Nothing could be further from the truth. Plenty of folks who consider themselves “vanilla” use electroerotic toys to painlessly titillate their partners or achieve hands-free orgasms. Wanna give it a try? Here’s what you need to know . . .
Flower Power: Jopen Lust L5 Review
Let me tell you, this cute little flower unleashes some serious power! <-- it also inspires me to rhyme like a pro, ha! Also, in this video I tell you a little bit about my show. Yes, SHOW! Like on TV, this fall!
Review: The Shibari Wand Helped me Find the Secret to the Universe . . . in my Pants
The vibrations of the Rechargeable Shibari Wand really make this sex toy work for me. I’m not sure of the exact specs or the science behind the mechanisms, but the Shibari Wand feels as if it’s vibrating at a different frequency than the Hitachi.
Our Blow Job Class on Comedy Central’s @Midnight!
Late last night Ken and I were bombarded with messages and tweets: “You’re on Comedy Central!” “OMG! Your Blow Job Class is on @Midnight with Chris Hardwick!” What?! Yep!
OhMiBod Lovelife Adventure Review or “OhMiBod, Becky! Look at her Vibrator!”
I really, really, REALLY like the OhMiBod Adventure. Granted, it took a bit for me to get used to but once I did-- DAMN! It’s powerful enough for my iron clit of steel, it can be a few toys at once depending on if I insert it, how I insert it, which way I spin it, etc. It also does amazing things to my perineal sponge my other toys only dream of. We have quite the fling going at this point. We simply can’t get enough of each other!
“Down on your knees! Now, how may I serve you, bitch?” or Inverse Power Exchange for Beginners
There is no one true way to fulfill a role. Don’t let anyone police what or who you are. Like a $20 dollar bill that is folded in half, then wrinkled up and stuffed in a pocket, you still have the same value as you always did, yet you change shape over time. Even though it’s fun to figure out what you are called or identify with, ditch the labels and the meaning behind them and carve out YOUR way to be a top (or a sub).
Ken & Sunny on Full Disclosure Podcast with Eric Barry
Listen in as we talk about dating etiquette, Ken's rule about first dates, the Chicago kink scene, and a whole mess of interesting things that prompted Eric to call us his "most hardcore people on the show to date." Eric's takeaways: "Highlights include old ladies and puppetry of the penis, AVN midget blowbangs, ritual fucking on the altar of a seminary school, shoving balloon animals into buttholes and more."
Life skills to get you laid: How to make an Aphrodisiac 7 Course Meal
Ken Melvoin-Berg and Danny "Delicious" Kelson team up to create a mouth watering (and other parts watering) aphrodisiac meal. Get all the recipes and dinner guest reviews.
Top 10 CalExotics Fetish Toys of 2013
Recently I was a guest on the SiriusXM radio show, On Air with Club CalExotics hosted by Sheena Metal. Three words: SO MUCH FUN!
Sheena and I talked about exploring kink and took questions from callers. We finished up the episode with my list of Top 10 Fetish Toys of 2013. These are must-have, classic items everyone should have in their naughty toolbox.
Sunny’s Favorite Naughty Things of 2013
Just like Oprah has a list of her favorite products of the year, I have mine too. Only mine are a lot dirtier. Here are my favorite naughty things of 2013 . . .
My New Favorite Couples Toy: Silicone Jack Rabbit Ring
I have a new favorite couples toy! Rather, WE have a new favorite couples toy. SQUEE! And go figure, it’s a vibrating cock ring. Not just ANY vibrating cock ring either but we’ll get to that later.
Outside the Box: Man on the Street Las Vegas
When we were in Vegas covering the AVN Expo, the Outside the Box crew and I took it to the streets. Hilarity ensues when you talk to strangers about their sex lives. We also touched on bestialty (I think? I didn't imagine that, right!? that *is* what we were talking about??). I'll let you judge for yourself!
What what? Math in my butt!
Of all the geeky sex facts I have encountered, this one is by far my favorite: If you haven’t had anal play in a while (a month or longer), you can use the Fibonacci sequence of numbers to approximate the circumference of what can now comfortably fit in your butt.
Nick Hawk GIGOLO Lucky 7 Slender Bullet Review
Dear Basic Silver Bullet,
I met you years ago. How long has it been? Five? Six years? In all that time you’ve never let me down. Your vibrations are intense and when you are pressed up against me, you take to me the edge each and every time.
We Were on Sex Nerd Sandra Talking CLOWN SEX!
Well, we weren't ON Sandra but we were guests on her podcast! This episode was all about clown fetish. Oh, you didn't know about the clown thing Ken & I have? Here's a clown sex primer I wrote, Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons…
Gyration Sensations Gyrating Pleasing Flutter Sex Toy Review
When I first saw the Gyration Sensations Gyrating Pleasing Flutter vibrator I didn’t know what to make of it. It kind of looks like a platypus, right? Here’s a quick round-up for those of you doing a drive by. For all the juicy details watch my video review below.
15 Easy, Simple, Quick Tactics to Increase Playtime in Your Relationship
We would probably all differ a little in our answer to the question “What is a relationship for” but one thing we can probably all agree on is the idea that it needs to be fun. Fun is what happens between you and your partner when you put aside the problems in your life, in your world, maybe in your relationship itself, and “throw the old pigskin around” figuratively.
Learning My Own Sex Tips
I love reading sex tips. There seems to be a chapter dedicated to great sex in every newsstand woman’s magazine. Sometimes however, I wonder if the authors have tried the suggestions they’ve written as most tend to lack originality and inspiration.
Gyration Sensations Gyrating Lover Sex Toy Review
You know, I think I’m becoming cynical. The more sex toys I try, the more it takes to pique my interest. Unless it has a minimum of 8 fully functioning tentacles, makes me coffee or is controlled by mind power—ehhhh it just looks like another vibrator to me. Vibrator, schmibrator. I’m up to my neck in sex toys. My eyebrows don’t easily raise anymore.
If Men Could Menstruate
Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.
The Truth about Silicone Lube
I consume sex ed related material on the web at an alarming rate. I always have my nose in a blog or video. The misconceptions I come across about silicone personal lubricants are plenty.
Adonis Conqueror Vibrator Review
ADONIS CONQUEROR! That sounds like something that would leave a wake of exhausted and happily pleasured genitals in its path. Since it takes a lot to satisfy me and I’m a bit of a size queen, the mental image I had of the Adonis Conqueror resembled a jack hammer in the shape and size of a fist. And, of course, it was made out of sparkling solid gold. RAWR!
Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Phoebe Vibrator Review
The Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Phoebe vibrator by CalExotics is a clitoral stimulator. It certainly has its benefits and drawbacks. Check out the video below where I discuss them in detail.
How to Really Tell if a Woman is Having an Orgasm
I came across this article today from Dan & Jennifer on how to tell if a woman is faking orgasm.
I hit full WTF mode at #6: “Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards”
"This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to ‘test’ her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens."
How to Handle Gagging During a Blow Job
If you’ve been on the giving end of a blow job, you’ve likely encountered the dreaded gag reflex. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it.
CalExotics Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit Review
This month CalExotics sent me the Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit to review. I was so happy when I opened the box! This was a no brainer! I absolutely LOVE this version of rabbit vibrator. Just a few months back I reviewed the Rechargeable Black Label Anniversary Edition Rabbit which has the same features as the triple motor version. The only difference between the two is one is rechargeable and the other takes batteries.
Support a Sexual Health Charity & Save Money? Meet Desire and Pleasure!
For all of you looking to get some charity work in while you get off please consider shopping with Desire and Pleasure. You can get an additional 15% off in December by using the code BLOG013 during checkout. FPA has worked hard for the last 82 years fighting for the rights of women and advocating for fulfilling sex for all. If you’d like to join the cause while you treat your groin to something special, I highly recommend taking a peek at Desire and Pleasure. It’s the best way to get on the naughty AND nice list this year!
Piss: A Short Film
Wow, this is a great short film! It also has so many layers. On the surface it’s got a very indie/dark comedy feel. It also brings to light what many people exploring BDSM wrestle with: How to reconcile kink with your feminist beliefs.
It also touches on the importance of safewords and the sometimes murky waters of consent.
Electrifying Electrosex Giveaway! Win a Neon Wand & Power Tripper!
What’s better than one holiday contest? TWO holiday contests! You thought my Lovehoney & Sliquid Holiday Giveaway was it? Not a chance— check out what else you can win!
Ken & I will be in Milwaukee on December 1st teaching ZAP! Electric Play – TENS, Wands & More at The Tool Shed. To celebrate, Stockroom.com so graciously gave us TWO Neon Wand + Power Tripper gift packages to giveaway!
I’m a 2012 Top Sex Blogger!
Wow! I'm honored! I came in #12 on Rori's Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2012 list! Thanks to all of you who read, comment and share my posts! Also thanks for voting for me. I'm am beside myself with happiness :)
The Future of Pleasure: How Technology is shaping Today’s Sex Toy Trends
If you've watched Barbarella or Sleeper one too many times and have been anxiously awaiting the future of sci-fi sex robots and orgasm machines, your time is now. Today's most exciting sex toys are using technology to push the boundaries of play, both alone and with a partner.
Inflating the Anal Hype – Truth or Bust?
Inflatable anal toys are one of those mysterious adult products associated with fetishism and considered too “hardcore” for many people. In my experience more people will reach for a large butt plug over and expandable one. Are back-door inflatables really worth the hype or is this a novelty you should leave on the shelf? I personally think they are a wonderful invention worth consideration. This is why:
E.V.A. (Extreme Vibrating Action) Massager Review
When I first looked at it I wasn’t expecting much. The shape was strange. The length and bulbous head suggest it’s a g-spot toy, however, I was skeptical because it seemed to lack the firmness needed to effectively stimulate the g-spot. I also automatically question anything that claims “extreme vibration.” I have a clit of steel. I need something just short of a jackhammer to get me off.
Why Men Don’t Always Want Sex
This is a touchy subject, but I don’t feel like having sex all the time anymore. Surprise! I’m getting older. Soon I will be 44 years of age. I am into alternate sexual practices; I’m in an open relationship, BDSM, and have multiple sexual partners. I should always be in the mood, right? Wrong!
Rechargeable Black Label Jack Rabbit Review: I’m in Vibrator Heaven!
I hit the jackpot! I won the orgasm lottery!
I have not been able to stop masturbating since California Exotics sent me the just released 30th Anniversary Black Label Rechargeable Jack Rabbit to review. It’s been about a month. I’m weak. Send food. And more lube!
Ode to Butches
I love everything about butch women, and I always have. More feminine girls just don't do anything for me sexually- I can objectively admire their beauty and sexiness, but in the end, it's when I see a woman who is androgynous, boyish, or plain out manly, my heart starts to pitter-patter. So let me sing an ode to butches here, because ...
Why We Need Sex Ed NOW (Infographic)
We need to get our act together and provide realistic, comprehensive sex ed in schools.
Happy Bisexuality Day! Why is it so Hard Being Bi?
September 23rd, 2012 is Bisexuality Day. We need more visible bisexual role-models and supporters so I’m doing my part!
I dig everyone-- dudes, chicks, people whose plumbing traditionally matches their gender, those who don’t match…
50 Shades Of Grey Library Book Club a Success!
Last night I hosted a 50 Shades of Grey Book Club at the Elmwood Park Public Library. I’ve hosted other 50 Shades book clubs but this was my first at a public library.
What a wonderful turn-out! This was the largest book club audience…
Pubic Hair: To Shave Or Not To Shave?
This is a must read article on pubic hair from Good Vibrations Blog. It's like the author, Alyssa Royse, and I are twin souls.
Like her, I didn't remove my pubic hair until well into my 30's. I can’t love my hair(less)style enough. Sometimes…
10 Sex Toys You’ve Probably Never Heard of But Should Own
As a sex educator, S&M dungeon owner (The Studio) and pleasure advocate involved in the BDSM lifestyle, I’ve had the pleasure of trying all sorts of interesting sex toys many folks don’t ever see. I’m also fortunate to be one of the people that tests, reviews and writes about new products as they come out.
Sex On Prime Time TV – Red Light District Tour on Travel Channel
The Travel Channel segment we filmed in May aired last night. Woo-hoo! It’s for a show called Extreme Tours and features some of the stops I visit hosting a Weird Chicago Tours Red Light District Tour.
Through the months of editing I kept wondering how they were going to dumb-down the sex tour for G-rated television. On the tour we don’t hold back. How was I going to do a sex toy demonstration, visit a BDSM Dungeon or do and say even a fraction of the stuff that normally occurs?
Butterfly Kiss G-spot Vibrator Sex Toy Giveaway!
Woo-hoo! It’s time for another sex toy contest! The fine folks at California Exotics have graciously sponsored this giveaway. They sent me a blue Butterfly Kiss G-spot Vibrator to give to a lucky winner!
The reviewers over at…
5 Reasons Why Female Condoms Rock My World
Female condoms feel AMAZING! As someone with a vagina I can personally say using female condoms feels a bit more like sex without a condom. The male lovers I have used them with say they feel especially out of this world to a penis. Many men say it’s close to the sensation of bare-backing. Female condoms feel so natural because they warm up to the temperature of the wearers body. As an added bonus, when used for man/woman sex, the clitoris can be stimulated by the condoms outer ring and the tip of the penis stimulated by the inner ring.
Anal August: Dental Dam Alternatives for Safer Analingus & Cunnilingus
It’s Anal August! To celebrate I’ve put together a video about safer analingus (and bonus safer cunnilingus too!).
Most of us know we can use dental dams for oral sex but did you know you can also use a condom or a latex glove (or…
Sex Toy Review: Body & Soul Remote 1
This month the fine folks at California Exotics sent me a wireless remote controlled egg called Body & Soul Remote 1 to review.
First of all, I love remote controlled sex toys for couples play. The first time I got one was as a…
Get Lusty Podcast: Chicago Based Sexuality Educator Sunny Megatron
Huge thanks to Get Lusty for interviewing me! Below is a re-print of the original article/podcast published on GetLusty.com. Also, if you haven't checked out Get Lusty, get started! They post a bunch of sex positive, awesome articles every…
Learning from Kink: Polyamory and Swinging – My Visit with The Kinky Diva
This is part two of What Kink Can Teach Us. The "alternative" community we will be focusing on this week is polyamory and swingers. I must admit. I am completely monogamous and look for/require [...]
Top Sex Bloggers of 2012 & Thank You!
Hello Glorious Readers!
I want to take a minute to say thank you for all of your support. Nearly every day I receive a nice note from someone thanking me for the information and services I provide. That’s why I love my job. Sure,…
Why I Don’t Try To Prevent HIV (and don’t think you should either)
This was written by Wintersong and previously appeared on BarkingShaman.com. It specifically applies to safety issues around play that involves blood product, such as play-piercing and cutting play. Although this writing specifically applies…
Why You Should Invest in Luxury Sex Toys
When I first started buying sex toys, I would usually go the cheap route and get whatever looked the most tempting for under $30. I was in college, so you couldn't blame me, but of course, these toys didn't last long. They'd break in half…
The Vanilla vs. Kink Crossover
When it comes to vanillas and kinksters there’s a real “us” and “them” attitude. It’s like the Sharks and the Jets (Yes, I’m showing my age . . . and my love for musicals. Quiet, or I’ll dance fight your ass.). If you’re one you can’t be the other. You should never let it be known you occasionally associate with the other side, right? Look how badly that turned out for Tony and Maria.
It’s also assumed if you’re on one side you think the other is less than worthy. Breaking it down to basic stereotypes, vanillas think kinksters are scary and weird. Kinksters think vanillas are unadventurous and boring.
The Low-Down on Ben Wa Balls + Eclipse Kegel Exerciser Review
Ben Wa balls, also known as Kegel exercisers, are all the rage. We’ve known for over 1,500 years using them leads to improved vaginal health, better sex and stronger orgasms. You’d think that would be enough to sell anyone. But it…