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Hi, Friends! I’ve got a ⚡shocking⚡ announcement: On Thursday 9/28/23 I'm teaching Electroplay for Pain & Pleasure and I’d love for you to join me! This virtual class is hosted by Sanctuary LAX’s Academy of Erotic Arts Online 🤗 ❓What’s…

As a culture, we’ve come a long way in our understanding of consent. It’s discussed in schools, on TV shows, and in popular media. But through this mainstreaming of consent, we’ve also lost some important nuance along the way. This conversation…

Mike Stabile, who appeared in Netflix’s Moneyshot: The Pornhub Story joins us to talk about important details that didn’t make it into the documentary. Some of what we discuss: The aftermath of the 2020 New York Times article that shook…

Fact: The BDSM world has a race problem.  Queer, Black, kink educator, Phrygian Monk joins us to talk about it. This conversation stemmed from one of their no-nuance November observations: “Kinktok is heavily segregated and pretty racist…

The BDSM Test is infamous. We post results on FetLife & use it as a roadmap, educational tool + kink negotiation starter. It’s even gone vanilla as the focus of social media challenges & pop magazine writeups. But is it all its cracked up to be? Many say it’s othering, stigmatizing & normalizes red-flags. Midori & therapist Joe Zarate-Sanderlin deconstruct this test question by question + explore its wider impact. Why don't we scrutinize it the same way vet other educational sources? Who wrote it, why, and what are they using the data they’re collecting about our kink for? Turns out, it’s a bit of a mystery…