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We know self-care, compassion, and love are important, but do you know HOW to love yourself? Lee Harrington not only talks about why these things are key but also teaches us HOW to do them. Learn self-forgiveness, healthy boundary setting, and becoming become a better friend or partner too through self-courtship and deepening your connection with yourself. Kinky folks can use these tools in their self-collaring journey too. 

Mollena Williams-Haas, a.k.a. The Kink Doula, is back to serve up a slice of community healing. As a BDSM Leather community veteran and legend, Mollena understands the challenges of living your truth when it falls outside of the alt-sex status…

Veronika Kestrel joins us for a conversation about creating safe & inclusive kink spaces for everyone across the gender spectrum. Despite the BDSM subculture's roots in the queer community & emphasis on inclusivity, many communities…

Midori joins us to discuss Japanese BDSM & why recognizing fundamental differences in various cultures around the world is the key to understanding the how & why behind kink. We talk about differences in consent & safety, how…

Asexuality and kink?! Isn’t that a contradiction?! Nope! Asexual BDSM is quite common. In fact, a significant segment of the kink subculture is on the ‘ace’ spectrum.  On ep 195, Evie Lupine joins to talk about it. A few of the things…

Safe words aren't as complicated as we make them out to be. They aren’t necessarily as simple as we think either. In kink & sex, safe words are simple communication tools that stop the action & trigger a predetermined protocol. What…

Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when…

Being a part of community isn't required to practice BDSM, although it may seem like it due to visibility. What is important is knowing the positive and negative ways community influences the kink subculture. Yes, mainstream myths and stereotypes…

The legal definition of consent in BDSM is changing & all kinksters NEED to know about this! Currently, U.S. law interprets consensual kink activities as criminal acts making prosecuting sexual assault cases in BDSM difficult. How do you prove non-consensual sex occurred if kink isn’t considered sex in the eyes of the law, it’s assault? The NCSF established a legal definition of consent in kink: The New Model Penal Code on Sexual Assault: Affirmative Defense of Explicit Prior Permission for use of force and restraint with sexual contact developed with the American Law Institute. Susan Wright & BebeBlueEyes explain how this gives legal power to sexual assault survivors, how it’ll be adopted state-by-state, about the new consent model EPP/Explicit Prior Permission & why implementing it as community standard is key to changing case law, what you can do to help, how the NCSF can assist you with criminal sexual assault cases involving consensual kink, and more.

On Ep 183 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Sinclair Sexsmith about dominance & submission. While most are aware that Dom/sub play is common in kink, we also have a very narrow view of what it entails. D/s isn’t always cruel &…