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A No B.S. Approach to Kink – Online BDSM Class
Mark your calendars for Wednesday 8/30! Join me for my virtual BDSM class, A No B.S. Approach to Kink hosted by Bloom🤗
❓What’s covered? Here’s the BDSM class description:
Curious about kink? Or perhaps you’re an experienced…
Win an Eddie 2-pack & Access to Giddy’s ED Educational Program – $249 value!
Tantric Sex: How to Give Your Partner an Hour Long Orgasm
A passionate sex life keeps us happy, healthy and connected to a partner. However, for many, satisfaction in the bedroom doesn’t come naturally. Many people struggle to achieve orgasm due to negative sexual emotions, low self-confidence, premature…
Beginner Bondage: Honey, Can We Get a Little Knotty Tonight?
A guest post by Gray "Dancer" Miller
It’s a lot easier than it used to be.
There was a time when “that kinky stuff” was a deal breaker in relationships, considered “sick” and “perverted” (and that’s the nice way to put it).…
Sensory Deprivation & Sensation Play: A Perfect Pairing
Do you consider yourself among the kink-curious? Are you someone who’s interested in trying something a little kinky, but aren’t quite sure where to begin? Does the thought of BDSM get your juices flowing but at the same time is a bit intimidating?…
The Fundamentals of BDSM
From the outside looking in, a typical BDSM scene may appear to be a one-sided affair in which the dominant gets to do whatever they want to the submissive. To the unknowing eye, things like spanking, objectification, or erotic humiliation seem abusive. If these actions are done properly within the framework of BDSM, however, they are anything but.
My New BDSM Articles on Sexpert.com
I’m very excited to announce I’m writing regularly for sexpert.com now! Every two weeks or so expect a new article about kink. This isn’t just any BDSM series either. Each article is designed to build upon the last and will give you a solid BDSM 101 foundation and useable guide.
The Surprising Health Benefits of BDSM
It’s only been a couple of years since the medical industry decided participation in fetishism and sadomasochism was no longer considered a mental disorder. It’s no surprise there aren’t many long term and older studies about BDSM. Thankfully, in recent years, researchers have started seriously studying the effects of BDSM and their findings are surprising (well, surprising to the researchers-- many BDSM practitioners have always known it was doing something good!)
Genital Clamps: The Penis & Testicles Edition
Clamping doesn't have to be painful. It’s not uncommon for men to enjoy tugging their scrotum while stroking their penis. Many find this pressure very arousing and that it helps bring on orgasm. Weight added from placing light clamps on the scrotum can give this same effect while leaving both hands free.
A Tour of the Most Magical Place on Earth: Hustler Hollywood
I took tour of the amazing Hustler Hollywood flagship store! Perhaps you've never been to a sex store at all or maybe just not to one of such epic proportions? This place is as big as a grocery store and even has a coffee shop inside!
Advanced Neon & Violet Wand Play
This article will give you lots of clever ideas and introduce you to new tools that will take your wand play to the next level. I discuss techniques for direct, indirect, and reverse play including: violet wand rope, Edison adapters, knife play alternatives, conductive metals, and a lot more!
Anal Gaping for the Masses
In the extremely under researched world of bizarre anal acts, gaping is one of the least understood. Learn about it first hand from XXX star Casey Calvert plus get 8 essential steps to achieving anal gape.
Sunny Megatron on Full Disclosure Podcast: The Great Blow Job Debate
Are blow jobs fun to give or a chore? Eric Barry invited Mary Zee-- a lover of fellatio, Michelle Yoder-- a disliker of blow jobs and me-- a former hater but now enthusiastic member of #TeamBlowJob, to debate it out on the Full Disclosure Podcast.
4 Must-Haves for Phenomenal First Time Pegging
Is pegging something you’d like to try? You and your partner may find it’s an act that not only brings you closer together but unlocks orgasm potential you never knew possible.
Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg at Sexual Health Expo in Phoenix
Great news, Arizona! Ken and I are teaching a 50 Shades of Grey inspired BDSM 101 class at the Sexual Health Expo (a.k.a. SHE) on April 25th, 2015! As a gift to you, my friends get 2-for-1 tickets to SHE. Simply use my Sexual Health Expo coupon code!
Fifty Shades Valentine’s Day Toy Guide
It’s no coincidence the Fifty Shades of Grey movie opens Valentine's day weekend. The movie folks know it’s the perfect sexy date night film. So what happens when the movie is over and you’re inspired to copy a few moves from Christian and Anna’s playbook?
Where to Find Online Orgy Websites as seen on Sex with Sunny Megatron
An internet orgy is by invite only. It's usually set up by social media and the invite list is closely monitored. Usually everybody knows each other. What you'll need is a good computer, webcasting service, and a high speed internet connection.
Disclosing Your Kinks to Your Doctor
What if there are repercussions as a result of that doctor finding out exactly how you got those bruises all over your ass? What if they judge or shame you? What if their biases affect the quality of care they give you?
Dollification and Relaxed Clitoral Orgasms
The first time I had an orgasm being relaxed, calm, and breathing deeply it was an amazing experience. I hadn’t realized before that during all of my previous orgasms my pelvic floor and entire body was clenched, I was white knuckled, grinding my teeth, and holding my breath. All of those things going in in different parts of my body detracted from what my genitals were feeling.
Sex with Sunny Megatron #Recharge Discussion Video
Each week following the airing of a new Sex with Sunny Megatron episode I post follow-up videos on my youtube page. The discussion video for episode 1 is up and embedded below. The theme of episode 1 is #Recharge and in the video I talk a little about the episode and suggest additional ways you can recharge your sex life.
Four Sexy Taboos to Explore this Halloween
Sexual taboos are different for everyone. We all have things we absolutely won’t do, however, most of us also have a few naughty, unmentionable, and totally hot taboos that really turn us on. These are the things we’ve been itching to try but because they are a little *ehemm* different, may seem too awkward to bring up to a partner. Halloween can be the perfect time to dive into some of these unchartered waters. Here are 4 sexy taboos that you can explore this October:
Shock Your Sex Life: Electrosex for Couples
Think electric sex play is only for people who enjoy pain? Nothing could be further from the truth. Plenty of folks who consider themselves “vanilla” use electroerotic toys to painlessly titillate their partners or achieve hands-free orgasms. Wanna give it a try? Here’s what you need to know . . .
Flower Power: Jopen Lust L5 Review
Let me tell you, this cute little flower unleashes some serious power! <-- it also inspires me to rhyme like a pro, ha! Also, in this video I tell you a little bit about my show. Yes, SHOW! Like on TV, this fall!
Our Blow Job Class on Comedy Central’s @Midnight!
Late last night Ken and I were bombarded with messages and tweets: “You’re on Comedy Central!” “OMG! Your Blow Job Class is on @Midnight with Chris Hardwick!” What?! Yep!
“Down on your knees! Now, how may I serve you, bitch?” or Inverse Power Exchange for Beginners
There is no one true way to fulfill a role. Don’t let anyone police what or who you are. Like a $20 dollar bill that is folded in half, then wrinkled up and stuffed in a pocket, you still have the same value as you always did, yet you change shape over time. Even though it’s fun to figure out what you are called or identify with, ditch the labels and the meaning behind them and carve out YOUR way to be a top (or a sub).
Life skills to get you laid: How to make an Aphrodisiac 7 Course Meal
Ken Melvoin-Berg and Danny "Delicious" Kelson team up to create a mouth watering (and other parts watering) aphrodisiac meal. Get all the recipes and dinner guest reviews.
Top 10 CalExotics Fetish Toys of 2013
Recently I was a guest on the SiriusXM radio show, On Air with Club CalExotics hosted by Sheena Metal. Three words: SO MUCH FUN!
Sheena and I talked about exploring kink and took questions from callers. We finished up the episode with my list of Top 10 Fetish Toys of 2013. These are must-have, classic items everyone should have in their naughty toolbox.
Sunny’s Favorite Naughty Things of 2013
Just like Oprah has a list of her favorite products of the year, I have mine too. Only mine are a lot dirtier. Here are my favorite naughty things of 2013 . . .
My New Favorite Couples Toy: Silicone Jack Rabbit Ring
I have a new favorite couples toy! Rather, WE have a new favorite couples toy. SQUEE! And go figure, it’s a vibrating cock ring. Not just ANY vibrating cock ring either but we’ll get to that later.
15 Easy, Simple, Quick Tactics to Increase Playtime in Your Relationship
We would probably all differ a little in our answer to the question “What is a relationship for” but one thing we can probably all agree on is the idea that it needs to be fun. Fun is what happens between you and your partner when you put aside the problems in your life, in your world, maybe in your relationship itself, and “throw the old pigskin around” figuratively.
How to Really Tell if a Woman is Having an Orgasm
I came across this article today from Dan & Jennifer on how to tell if a woman is faking orgasm.
I hit full WTF mode at #6: “Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards”
"This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to ‘test’ her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens."
How to Handle Gagging During a Blow Job
If you’ve been on the giving end of a blow job, you’ve likely encountered the dreaded gag reflex. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it.
CalExotics Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit Review
This month CalExotics sent me the Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit to review. I was so happy when I opened the box! This was a no brainer! I absolutely LOVE this version of rabbit vibrator. Just a few months back I reviewed the Rechargeable Black Label Anniversary Edition Rabbit which has the same features as the triple motor version. The only difference between the two is one is rechargeable and the other takes batteries.
Piss: A Short Film
Wow, this is a great short film! It also has so many layers. On the surface it’s got a very indie/dark comedy feel. It also brings to light what many people exploring BDSM wrestle with: How to reconcile kink with your feminist beliefs.
It also touches on the importance of safewords and the sometimes murky waters of consent.
Electrifying Electrosex Giveaway! Win a Neon Wand & Power Tripper!
What’s better than one holiday contest? TWO holiday contests! You thought my Lovehoney & Sliquid Holiday Giveaway was it? Not a chance— check out what else you can win!
Ken & I will be in Milwaukee on December 1st teaching ZAP! Electric Play – TENS, Wands & More at The Tool Shed. To celebrate, Stockroom.com so graciously gave us TWO Neon Wand + Power Tripper gift packages to giveaway!
The Future of Pleasure: How Technology is shaping Today’s Sex Toy Trends
If you've watched Barbarella or Sleeper one too many times and have been anxiously awaiting the future of sci-fi sex robots and orgasm machines, your time is now. Today's most exciting sex toys are using technology to push the boundaries of play, both alone and with a partner.
Inflating the Anal Hype – Truth or Bust?
Inflatable anal toys are one of those mysterious adult products associated with fetishism and considered too “hardcore” for many people. In my experience more people will reach for a large butt plug over and expandable one. Are back-door inflatables really worth the hype or is this a novelty you should leave on the shelf? I personally think they are a wonderful invention worth consideration. This is why:
E.V.A. (Extreme Vibrating Action) Massager Review
When I first looked at it I wasn’t expecting much. The shape was strange. The length and bulbous head suggest it’s a g-spot toy, however, I was skeptical because it seemed to lack the firmness needed to effectively stimulate the g-spot. I also automatically question anything that claims “extreme vibration.” I have a clit of steel. I need something just short of a jackhammer to get me off.
Why Men Don’t Always Want Sex
This is a touchy subject, but I don’t feel like having sex all the time anymore. Surprise! I’m getting older. Soon I will be 44 years of age. I am into alternate sexual practices; I’m in an open relationship, BDSM, and have multiple sexual partners. I should always be in the mood, right? Wrong!
10 Sex Toys You’ve Probably Never Heard of But Should Own
As a sex educator, S&M dungeon owner (The Studio) and pleasure advocate involved in the BDSM lifestyle, I’ve had the pleasure of trying all sorts of interesting sex toys many folks don’t ever see. I’m also fortunate to be one of the people that tests, reviews and writes about new products as they come out.
5 Reasons Why Female Condoms Rock My World
Female condoms feel AMAZING! As someone with a vagina I can personally say using female condoms feels a bit more like sex without a condom. The male lovers I have used them with say they feel especially out of this world to a penis. Many men say it’s close to the sensation of bare-backing. Female condoms feel so natural because they warm up to the temperature of the wearers body. As an added bonus, when used for man/woman sex, the clitoris can be stimulated by the condoms outer ring and the tip of the penis stimulated by the inner ring.
Sex Toy Review: Body & Soul Remote 1
This month the fine folks at California Exotics sent me a wireless remote controlled egg called Body & Soul Remote 1 to review.
First of all, I love remote controlled sex toys for couples play. The first time I got one was as a…
Why I Don’t Try To Prevent HIV (and don’t think you should either)
This was written by Wintersong and previously appeared on BarkingShaman.com. It specifically applies to safety issues around play that involves blood product, such as play-piercing and cutting play. Although this writing specifically applies…
The Vanilla vs. Kink Crossover
When it comes to vanillas and kinksters there’s a real “us” and “them” attitude. It’s like the Sharks and the Jets (Yes, I’m showing my age . . . and my love for musicals. Quiet, or I’ll dance fight your ass.). If you’re one you can’t be the other. You should never let it be known you occasionally associate with the other side, right? Look how badly that turned out for Tony and Maria.
It’s also assumed if you’re on one side you think the other is less than worthy. Breaking it down to basic stereotypes, vanillas think kinksters are scary and weird. Kinksters think vanillas are unadventurous and boring.
Rules, Roleplays & Rituals: How to Bring Kink into Your Bedroom
Whenever I talk to people who have little to no experience in bondage, domination, sadism, submission, masochism, or the like, I ask them to imagine for me a couple. They are named Chris and Alex. First of all,
7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dominant
Just what is a Daddy Dom? Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. He chooses the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of dominance and submission (D/s). Let’s get one thing out of the way right at the beginning. A Daddy Dom does not
Ken & Sunny Milk a Prostate!
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In the video above Ken and I discuss some of the techniques from these prostate milking instructional videos we tried. They were a great success! We encountered…
Sex Toy Review: California Exotic Novelties Lia Pleaser 1
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Before I used the Lia ® Pleasers™ Pleaser 1, I was intrigued by the vibration options. It offers 10 different settings/pulses. It’s also waterproof and made from silicone,…
Teaching an Old Dog New Tricks: 30 Days of Polyamory
Over the next month or so I’ll be focusing on subjects relating to non-monogamy. I’ll answer many questions for you— from defining lexicon (what’s Poly vs. Open Relationship vs. Mono/Poly, etc) to walking you through the how-to’s…
Trading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink Curious Women
Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance. CaféMom/The Stir’s “Women Who Want…
You want more S&M classes? Get ready for BDSM 201: Dungeons for Beginners!
Our BDSM 101: 50 Shades of Taboo class last night at Taboo Tabou was AWESOME! Thanks to everyone who came out! The turnout was wonderful and I’m already receiving all sorts of private notes from attendees thanking Ken and I for teaching…
50 Shades of Grey Gift Set Giveaway!
I’m giving away a 50 Shades of Grey gift package!
Are you dying to read the book that has everyone talking? It seems everyone has an opinion about it— now you can judge for yourself!
This gift package is valued at over $65 and…
Talk about Birds, Bees and Disease with your Grandparents!
Our parents and grandparents didn’t grow up learning about condoms in their high school and college health classes. After becoming single after loss of a spouse or divorce, many are hitting the dating pool for the first time in years. Contrary…
Navigating Consent & Setting Sexual Boundaries: Yes/No/Maybe List
April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. It’s a topic I am very passionate about.
I devoted a lot of time this month to speaking and teaching about sexual consent. In my Sexual Consent Workshops we learn about consent in the context…
How to Give Prostate Massage: Instructional Videos
Below are a few instructional videos on prostate massage we found helpful. In the first, Jennah Adams shows you how to milk the prostate with a gloved finger. In the second Brianna Beach demos with an Aneros Prostate Massager. The bottom video is the very first video I ever watched about prostate massage. I really like this last video because it shows the actual massage in more detail. Also, they are the cutest couple ever!
G-spot Stimulation Instructional Video
This is a wonderful video on how to stimulate the g-spot I have been referring people to for years. You can find clips of the video on various sites but this link has the full 30 plus minute instructional video. Warning, although this is an instructional video, the clip is housed on a porn site and is graphic in nature! It is certainly NOT suitable for work!