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50 Shades Movie Recommendation: Secretary  

If you're a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey but haven't seen Secretary, SEE SECRETARY! It's a much more realistic representation of BDSM, it's suuuuper hot, and the chemistry between the James Spader and Maggie Gyllenaal is amazing!
6 ways to recharge your sex life
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Sex with Sunny Megatron #Recharge Discussion Video

Each week following the airing of a new Sex with Sunny Megatron episode I post follow-up videos on my youtube page. The discussion video for episode 1 is up and embedded below. The theme of episode 1 is #Recharge and in the video I talk a little about the episode and suggest additional ways you can recharge your sex life.
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SEX with Sunny Megatron TV Series Trailer

I know you've all been itching to get a sneak peek of the new show. A trailer is now available right on Showtime's website and on youtube. It's also been playing in between shows on Showtime as of late. Here it is!
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Electrify Your Orgasms: TENS Units for Beginners

Curious about using electricity to get off? Afraid to try because you don’t want to fry your naughty bits? Have no fear! While electrosex devices are sometimes used for BDSM pain play, they can also be an exciting, painless, and surprisingly safe way to bring yourself to mindblowing orgasm. And no, it won't hurt. Often portrayed as complicated, tortuous devices, electrosex toys are actually quite simple to operate and offer an infinite palette of sensations. Their adjustability makes them versatile enough to use for pain play or gentle, erotic titillation.
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Four Sexy Taboos to Explore this Halloween

Sexual taboos are different for everyone. We all have things we absolutely won’t do, however, most of us also have a few naughty, unmentionable, and totally hot taboos that really turn us on. These are the things we’ve been itching to try but because they are a little *ehemm* different, may seem too awkward to bring up to a partner. Halloween can be the perfect time to dive into some of these unchartered waters. Here are 4 sexy taboos that you can explore this October:
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An Intro to Labia Clamps

If you have ever had your labia massaged or tugged on during foreplay, you may have noticed how good it feels. This is because putting pressure on the labia can stimulate the internal clitoris. That little button above the top of the vaginal opening that most of us know as the clitoris is really just the tip of a much larger iceberg.
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Dear Facebook, #MyNameIs Sunny Megatron

Despite Chris Cox, Facebook’s VP of Product, stating yesterday that everyone has the right to use their “authentic identity” rather than their legal name on Facebook, I woke up this morning locked out of my account. A message popped up stating I had to provide a “government issued ID” to change my name back to the only name I've used for many years.
Source: Jason Winter/Dreamstime.com
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Shock Your Sex Life: Electrosex for Couples

Think electric sex play is only for people who enjoy pain? Nothing could be further from the truth. Plenty of folks who consider themselves “vanilla” use electroerotic toys to painlessly titillate their partners or achieve hands-free orgasms. Wanna give it a try? Here’s what you need to know . . .

Kinkly’s 2014 Sex Superheroes – It’s voting time!

It's that time once again! Kinkly is selecting it's Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014. You can vote for all of your favorite sex bloggers including *cough cough* ME!
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SEX with Sunny Megatron TV Show on Showtime!

If you haven’t heard the buzz, my husband, Ken and I have been busy all summer filming a TV show. Yep! I’m going to be on the tee-vee! Ken is the consulting producer and I am the host and co-executive producer of a new show about sex on Showtime called SEX with Sunny Megatron.
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Kinky Korner Web Series

Did you know that as a CalExotics Expert Sexpert I make kinky educational and product videos? My web Series is called Kinky Korner. So far I have nearly 30 videos in this series in which I teach you kink basics and give you a peek at some of my favorite sexytime products.
Jopen L5 Review
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Flower Power: Jopen Lust L5 Review

Let me tell you, this cute little flower unleashes some serious power! <-- it also inspires me to rhyme like a pro, ha! Also, in this video I tell you a little bit about my show. Yes, SHOW! Like on TV, this fall!
Shibari My Wand review
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Review: The Shibari Wand Helped me Find the Secret to the Universe . . . in my Pants

The vibrations of the Rechargeable Shibari Wand really make this sex toy work for me. I’m not sure of the exact specs or the science behind the mechanisms, but the Shibari Wand feels as if it’s vibrating at a different frequency than the Hitachi.
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Our Blow Job Class on Comedy Central’s @Midnight!

Late last night Ken and I were bombarded with messages and tweets: “You’re on Comedy Central!” “OMG! Your Blow Job Class is on @Midnight with Chris Hardwick!” What?! Yep!
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OhMiBod Lovelife Vibrator Giveaway – Win an Adventure, Cuddle or Discover!

This isn't just any old vibrator contest, it's a Triple Sex Toy Giveaway Extravaganza! Win the OhMiBod Lovelife Adventure, Cuddle or Discover!
Sunny Megatron Sex Toy Review
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OhMiBod Lovelife Adventure Review or “OhMiBod, Becky! Look at her Vibrator!”

I really, really, REALLY like the OhMiBod Adventure. Granted, it took a bit for me to get used to but once I did-- DAMN! It’s powerful enough for my iron clit of steel, it can be a few toys at once depending on if I insert it, how I insert it, which way I spin it, etc. It also does amazing things to my perineal sponge my other toys only dream of. We have quite the fling going at this point. We simply can’t get enough of each other!
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What’s going on? Workshops, Podcasts & Blog Posts! Oh My!

Ken and I have been busy beavers! Here’s the latest on what’s been happening and what’s to come (there's a dirty joke or two in there somewhere!) . . . Workshops, podcasts, conventions, blog posts, sex toy contests, sexy meal suggestions, and more!
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“Down on your knees! Now, how may I serve you, bitch?” or Inverse Power Exchange for Beginners

There is no one true way to fulfill a role. Don’t let anyone police what or who you are. Like a $20 dollar bill that is folded in half, then wrinkled up and stuffed in a pocket, you still have the same value as you always did, yet you change shape over time. Even though it’s fun to figure out what you are called or identify with, ditch the labels and the meaning behind them and carve out YOUR way to be a top (or a sub).
Eric Barry, Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg
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Ken & Sunny on Full Disclosure Podcast with Eric Barry

Listen in as we talk about dating etiquette, Ken's rule about first dates, the Chicago kink scene, and a whole mess of interesting things that prompted Eric to call us his "most hardcore people on the show to date." Eric's takeaways: "Highlights include old ladies and puppetry of the penis, AVN midget blowbangs, ritual fucking on the altar of a seminary school, shoving balloon animals into buttholes and more."
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Life skills to get you laid: How to make an Aphrodisiac 7 Course Meal

Ken Melvoin-Berg and Danny "Delicious" Kelson team up to create a mouth watering (and other parts watering) aphrodisiac meal. Get all the recipes and dinner guest reviews.
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Top 10 CalExotics Fetish Toys of 2013

Recently I was a guest on the SiriusXM radio show, On Air with Club CalExotics hosted by Sheena Metal. Three words: SO MUCH FUN! Sheena and I talked about exploring kink and took questions from callers. We finished up the episode with my list of Top 10 Fetish Toys of 2013. These are must-have, classic items everyone should have in their naughty toolbox.
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Sunny’s Favorite Naughty Things of 2013

Just like Oprah has a list of her favorite products of the year, I have mine too. Only mine are a lot dirtier. Here are my favorite naughty things of 2013 . . .
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My New Favorite Couples Toy: Silicone Jack Rabbit Ring

I have a new favorite couples toy! Rather, WE have a new favorite couples toy. SQUEE! And go figure, it’s a vibrating cock ring. Not just ANY vibrating cock ring either but we’ll get to that later.
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Outside the Box: Man on the Street Las Vegas

When we were in Vegas covering the AVN Expo, the Outside the Box crew and I took it to the streets. Hilarity ensues when you talk to strangers about their sex lives. We also touched on bestialty (I think? I didn't imagine that, right!? that *is* what we were talking about??). I'll let you judge for yourself!
Body & Soul Transcend review
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Body & Soul 10-Function Transcend Dual Vibrator Review

Cal Exotics has really been on a roll lately.  I keep getting sent review items I just love!  This month I got the Body & Soul 10-Function Transcend.  I can’t decide what I like most about it or even how to classify it. It’s a lay-on…
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What what? Math in my butt!

Of all the geeky sex facts I have encountered, this one is by far my favorite: If you haven’t had anal play in a while (a month or longer), you can use the Fibonacci sequence of numbers to approximate the circumference of what can now comfortably fit in your butt.
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Best Sex Writing of 2013 Blog Tour

Self identified sex geek or not, odds are you’ll find something within its pages that resonates with you. You’ll find something liberating, inspiring, and something make makes you think, “Huh, I never thought about it that way.” Hands down, this compilation contains some of the best writings of sex and sexuality I have ever read.
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Nick Hawk GIGOLO Lucky 7 Slender Bullet Review

Dear Basic Silver Bullet, I met you years ago. How long has it been? Five? Six years? In all that time you’ve never let me down. Your vibrations are intense and when you are pressed up against me, you take to me the edge each and every time.
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Lesbians React to Lesbian Porn

If there is one wish I had for the world it would be MAKE MORE AUTHENTIC PORN! Okay, maybe that wouldn't be my first wish. First I'd wish for things like world peace and unlimited wishes.
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We Were on Sex Nerd Sandra Talking CLOWN SEX!

Well, we weren't ON Sandra but we were guests on her podcast!  This episode was all about clown fetish.  Oh, you didn't know about the clown thing Ken & I have?  Here's a clown sex primer I wrote, Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons…
Gyration Sensations Review
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Gyration Sensations Gyrating Pleasing Flutter Sex Toy Review

When I first saw the Gyration Sensations Gyrating Pleasing Flutter vibrator I didn’t know what to make of it. It kind of looks like a platypus, right? Here’s a quick round-up for those of you doing a drive by. For all the juicy details watch my video review below.
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15 Easy, Simple, Quick Tactics to Increase Playtime in Your Relationship

We would probably all differ a little in our answer to the question “What is a relationship for” but one thing we can probably all agree on is the idea that it needs to be fun. Fun is what happens between you and your partner when you put aside the problems in your life, in your world, maybe in your relationship itself, and “throw the old pigskin around” figuratively.
Me, Myself & Irene: Did you have Fun? (Dildo Scene)
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Learning My Own Sex Tips

I love reading sex tips. There seems to be a chapter dedicated to great sex in every newsstand woman’s magazine. Sometimes however, I wonder if the authors have tried the suggestions they’ve written as most tend to lack originality and inspiration.
Gyration Sensations Review
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Gyration Sensations Gyrating Lover Sex Toy Review

You know, I think I’m becoming cynical. The more sex toys I try, the more it takes to pique my interest. Unless it has a minimum of 8 fully functioning tentacles, makes me coffee or is controlled by mind power—ehhhh it just looks like another vibrator to me. Vibrator, schmibrator. I’m up to my neck in sex toys. My eyebrows don’t easily raise anymore.
Gloria Steinem
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If Men Could Menstruate

Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.
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The Truth about Silicone Lube

I consume sex ed related material on the web at an alarming rate. I always have my nose in a blog or video. The misconceptions I come across about silicone personal lubricants are plenty.

Porn Search Terms by Country & State – Interactive Map

This interactive porn map by porn MD displays the top 10 pornographic search terms over a 6 month period by country and U.S. state. I'm really happy to see the #1 term both in the U.S. and Illinois is "MILF." I certainly do live in the right place!
Adonis Conqueror Review
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Adonis Conqueror Vibrator Review

ADONIS CONQUEROR! That sounds like something that would leave a wake of exhausted and happily pleasured genitals in its path. Since it takes a lot to satisfy me and I’m a bit of a size queen, the mental image I had of the Adonis Conqueror resembled a jack hammer in the shape and size of a fist. And, of course, it was made out of sparkling solid gold. RAWR!
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Black Label Anniversary Edition Jack Rabbit Vibrator Give-Away

I’m super excited! Over the last couple of months I revamped my website (what do you think?), scheduled a ton of awesome great classes, been traveling and filming with Ken for an upcoming TV show AND I’ll have even MORE awesome stuff to announce soon. I’m feeling so great, I want to celebrate! Do you know how? By giving away one of my most favorite sex toys EVER!!!
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Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Phoebe Vibrator Review

The Dr. Laura Berman Intimate Basics Phoebe vibrator by CalExotics is a clitoral stimulator. It certainly has its benefits and drawbacks. Check out the video below where I discuss them in detail.
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How to Really Tell if a Woman is Having an Orgasm

I came across this article today from Dan & Jennifer on how to tell if a woman is faking orgasm. I hit full WTF mode at #6: “Her Clitoris Isn’t Sensitive Afterwards” "This only lasts a few seconds, so make sure to ‘test’ her right after her orgasm. Touch her clitoris lightly after she’s climaxed and watch her reaction. If she’s totally cool with it, she faked. If she jerks back involuntarily and almost violently, her orgasm was real. If you were giving her oral sex, just keep licking for a few seconds longer than you need to and see what happens."
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How to Handle Gagging During a Blow Job

If you’ve been on the giving end of a blow job, you’ve likely encountered the dreaded gag reflex. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it.
Jack Rabbit Review Sunny & Ken
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CalExotics Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit Review

This month CalExotics sent me the Triple Motor Silicone Jack Rabbit to review. I was so happy when I opened the box! This was a no brainer! I absolutely LOVE this version of rabbit vibrator. Just a few months back I reviewed the Rechargeable Black Label Anniversary Edition Rabbit which has the same features as the triple motor version. The only difference between the two is one is rechargeable and the other takes batteries.
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Support a Sexual Health Charity & Save Money? Meet Desire and Pleasure!

For all of you looking to get some charity work in while you get off please consider shopping with Desire and Pleasure. You can get an additional 15% off in December by using the code BLOG013 during checkout. FPA has worked hard for the last 82 years fighting for the rights of women and advocating for fulfilling sex for all. If you’d like to join the cause while you treat your groin to something special, I highly recommend taking a peek at Desire and Pleasure. It’s the best way to get on the naughty AND nice list this year!
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Sex & Mormonism: Homosexuality, BDSM, Magic Underpants & More

Whenever I hear about someone that is personally conservative or belongs to an orthodox sex negative religion, I want to know if they get freaky behind closed doors. Do Mormons have sex on their periods? Do they give oral or anal sex? Do they practice BDSM and spank each other when nobody is looking? Do they do it with the lights on while choking their beloved and screwing up against a wall?
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Piss: A Short Film

Wow, this is a great short film! It also has so many layers. On the surface it’s got a very indie/dark comedy feel. It also brings to light what many people exploring BDSM wrestle with: How to reconcile kink with your feminist beliefs. It also touches on the importance of safewords and the sometimes murky waters of consent.
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Bunny Dreams Vibrator Review

I really wanted to love the CalExotics Bunny Dreams Vibrator. I really did. It’s a great concept. Check this out: you insert the slim 3” shaft into the vagina while the bunny ears wrap around the outside and tickle the clit. The insertable portion has a curve that hits the g-spot. It’s designed to stay in place and deliver hands free orgasms. Bunny Dreams is also so small and compact it can be worn under clothing for a little fun on the go!
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Electrifying Electrosex Giveaway! Win a Neon Wand & Power Tripper!

What’s better than one holiday contest? TWO holiday contests! You thought my Lovehoney & Sliquid Holiday Giveaway was it? Not a chance— check out what else you can win! Ken & I will be in Milwaukee on December 1st teaching ZAP! Electric Play – TENS, Wands & More at The Tool Shed. To celebrate, Stockroom.com so graciously gave us TWO Neon Wand + Power Tripper gift packages to giveaway!
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Lovehoney & Sliquid Holiday Giveaway Extravaganza!

I’ve been very busy the last few weeks and one of the things I’ve been working on is a surprise for you! I got together with the wonderful folks at Lovehoney.com and Sliquid to bring you my biggest contest yet— just in time for the holidays!

I’m a 2012 Top Sex Blogger!

Wow! I'm honored! I came in #12 on Rori's Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2012 list! Thanks to all of you who read, comment and share my posts! Also thanks for voting for me. I'm am beside myself with happiness :)
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The Future of Pleasure: How Technology is shaping Today’s Sex Toy Trends

If you've watched Barbarella or Sleeper one too many times and have been anxiously awaiting the future of sci-fi sex robots and orgasm machines, your time is now. Today's most exciting sex toys are using technology to push the boundaries of play, both alone and with a partner.
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Inflating the Anal Hype – Truth or Bust?

Inflatable anal toys are one of those mysterious adult products associated with fetishism and considered too “hardcore” for many people. In my experience more people will reach for a large butt plug over and expandable one. Are back-door inflatables really worth the hype or is this a novelty you should leave on the shelf? I personally think they are a wonderful invention worth consideration. This is why:
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E.V.A. (Extreme Vibrating Action) Massager Review

When I first looked at it I wasn’t expecting much. The shape was strange. The length and bulbous head suggest it’s a g-spot toy, however, I was skeptical because it seemed to lack the firmness needed to effectively stimulate the g-spot. I also automatically question anything that claims “extreme vibration.” I have a clit of steel. I need something just short of a jackhammer to get me off.
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Why Men Don’t Always Want Sex

This is a touchy subject, but I don’t feel like having sex all the time anymore. Surprise! I’m getting older. Soon I will be 44 years of age. I am into alternate sexual practices; I’m in an open relationship, BDSM, and have multiple sexual partners. I should always be in the mood, right? Wrong!
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Rechargeable Black Label Jack Rabbit Review: I’m in Vibrator Heaven!

I hit the jackpot! I won the orgasm lottery! I have not been able to stop masturbating since California Exotics sent me the just released 30th Anniversary Black Label Rechargeable Jack Rabbit to review. It’s been about a month. I’m weak. Send food. And more lube!
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Ode to Butches

I love everything about butch women, and I always have. More feminine girls just don't do anything for me sexually- I can objectively admire their beauty and sexiness, but in the end, it's when I see a woman who is androgynous, boyish, or plain out manly, my heart starts to pitter-patter. So let me sing an ode to butches here, because ...
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Why We Need Sex Ed NOW (Infographic)

We need to get our act together and provide realistic, comprehensive sex ed in schools.
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Happy Bisexuality Day! Why is it so Hard Being Bi?

September 23rd, 2012 is Bisexuality Day. We need more visible bisexual role-models and supporters so I’m doing my part! I dig everyone-- dudes, chicks, people whose plumbing traditionally matches their gender, those who don’t match…
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50 Shades Of Grey Library Book Club a Success!

Last night I hosted a 50 Shades of Grey Book Club at the Elmwood Park Public Library.  I’ve hosted other 50 Shades book clubs but this was my first at a public library. What a wonderful turn-out!  This was the largest book club audience…
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Pubic Hair: To Shave Or Not To Shave?

This is a must read article on pubic hair from Good Vibrations Blog. It's like the author, Alyssa Royse, and I are twin souls. Like her, I didn't remove my pubic hair until well into my 30's. I can’t love my hair(less)style enough. Sometimes…
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10 Sex Toys You’ve Probably Never Heard of But Should Own

As a sex educator, S&M dungeon owner (The Studio) and pleasure advocate involved in the BDSM lifestyle, I’ve had the pleasure of trying all sorts of interesting sex toys many folks don’t ever see. I’m also fortunate to be one of the people that tests, reviews and writes about new products as they come out.
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Sex On Prime Time TV – Red Light District Tour on Travel Channel

The Travel Channel segment we filmed in May aired last night. Woo-hoo! It’s for a show called Extreme Tours and features some of the stops I visit hosting a Weird Chicago Tours Red Light District Tour. Through the months of editing I kept wondering how they were going to dumb-down the sex tour for G-rated television. On the tour we don’t hold back. How was I going to do a sex toy demonstration, visit a BDSM Dungeon or do and say even a fraction of the stuff that normally occurs?
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Butterfly Kiss G-spot Vibrator Sex Toy Giveaway!

Woo-hoo!  It’s time for another sex toy contest!  The fine folks at California Exotics  have graciously sponsored this giveaway.  They sent me a blue Butterfly Kiss G-spot Vibrator to give to a lucky winner! The reviewers over at…
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5 Reasons Why Female Condoms Rock My World

Female condoms feel AMAZING! As someone with a vagina I can personally say using female condoms feels a bit more like sex without a condom. The male lovers I have used them with say they feel especially out of this world to a penis. Many men say it’s close to the sensation of bare-backing. Female condoms feel so natural because they warm up to the temperature of the wearers body. As an added bonus, when used for man/woman sex, the clitoris can be stimulated by the condoms outer ring and the tip of the penis stimulated by the inner ring.
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Anal August: Dental Dam Alternatives for Safer Analingus & Cunnilingus

It’s Anal August! To celebrate I’ve put together a video about safer analingus (and bonus safer cunnilingus too!). Most of us know we can use dental dams for oral sex but did you know you can also use a condom or a latex glove (or…
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Sex Toy Review: Body & Soul Remote 1

This month the fine folks at California Exotics sent me a wireless remote controlled egg called Body & Soul Remote 1 to review. First of all, I love remote controlled sex toys for couples play.  The first time I got one was as a…
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Get Lusty Podcast: Chicago Based Sexuality Educator Sunny Megatron

Huge thanks to Get Lusty for interviewing me!  Below is a re-print of the original article/podcast published on GetLusty.com.  Also, if you haven't checked out Get Lusty, get started!  They post a bunch of sex positive, awesome articles every…
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Learning from Kink: Polyamory and Swinging – My Visit with The Kinky Diva

This is part two of What Kink Can Teach Us. The "alternative" community we will be focusing on this week is polyamory and swingers. I must admit. I am completely monogamous and look for/require [...]
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Top Sex Bloggers of 2012 & Thank You!

Hello Glorious Readers! I want to take a minute to say thank you for all of your support.  Nearly every day I receive a nice note from someone thanking me for the information and services I provide.  That’s why I love my job.  Sure,…
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Why I Don’t Try To Prevent HIV (and don’t think you should either)

This was written by Wintersong and previously appeared on BarkingShaman.com.  It specifically applies to safety issues around play that involves blood product, such as play-piercing and cutting play. Although this writing specifically applies…
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Why You Should Invest in Luxury Sex Toys

When I first started buying sex toys, I would usually go the cheap route and get whatever looked the most tempting for under $30. I was in college, so you couldn't blame me, but of course, these toys didn't last long. They'd break in half…
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The Vanilla vs. Kink Crossover

When it comes to vanillas and kinksters there’s a real “us” and “them” attitude. It’s like the Sharks and the Jets (Yes, I’m showing my age . . . and my love for musicals. Quiet, or I’ll dance fight your ass.). If you’re one you can’t be the other. You should never let it be known you occasionally associate with the other side, right? Look how badly that turned out for Tony and Maria. It’s also assumed if you’re on one side you think the other is less than worthy. Breaking it down to basic stereotypes, vanillas think kinksters are scary and weird. Kinksters think vanillas are unadventurous and boring.
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The Low-Down on Ben Wa Balls + Eclipse Kegel Exerciser Review

Ben Wa balls, also known as Kegel exercisers, are all the rage.  We’ve known for over 1,500 years using them leads to improved vaginal health, better sex and stronger orgasms.  You’d think that would be enough to sell anyone.  But it…
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Work It! Sunny Megatron: Sex Educator, Weird Tour Guide, Kinky Blogger!

What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it? I do a whole bunch of odd and interesting things. Strangely, all of my work centers around two of life’s most intriguing, misunderstood and mysterious taboos: sex and death.
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Rules, Roleplays & Rituals: How to Bring Kink into Your Bedroom

Whenever I talk to people who have little to no experience in bondage, domination, sadism, submission, masochism, or the like, I ask them to imagine for me a couple. They are named Chris and Alex. First of all,
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7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dominant

Just what is a Daddy Dom? Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. He chooses the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of dominance and submission (D/s). Let’s get one thing out of the way right at the beginning. A Daddy Dom does not
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“A Guide to Emotional Independence” or “How I learned to Stop Worrying & Not Give a Fuck What Other People Think”

Here’s a quick guide to being secure with who you are, being comfortable with your own feelings, and being able to maintain emotional independence without feeling stifled by other people’s responses…
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Body Bashing: There is No Wrong Way to Have a Body

  I am tired, tired, tired of the “Real Women Have Curves” bullshit floating around Facebook.  Yes, I have curves.  Sometimes I love them and often I hate them.  I have major body image issues.  They play on my mind every…
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Jimmyjane Form 2 Review: I’m in Love!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYgcpkrw6Lc&feature=plcp[/youtube] Very rarely do I fall in love with a vibrator.  I’m picky, tough to arouse and since I’ve sampled some of the best toys out there, I have very high standards. …
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Ken & Sunny Milk a Prostate!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6i4uYQm_9UU[/youtube]   In the video above Ken and I discuss some of the techniques from these prostate milking instructional videos we tried.  They were a great success!  We encountered…
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Sex Toy Review: California Exotic Novelties Lia Pleaser 1

[youtube]http://youtu.be/GdQfRFHIPYU[/youtube]   Before I used the Lia ® Pleasers™ Pleaser 1, I was intrigued by the vibration options.  It offers 10 different settings/pulses.  It’s also waterproof and made from silicone,…
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Teaching an Old Dog New Tricks: 30 Days of Polyamory

Over the next month or so I’ll be focusing on subjects relating to non-monogamy.  I’ll answer many questions for you— from defining lexicon (what’s Poly vs. Open Relationship vs. Mono/Poly, etc) to walking you through the how-to’s…

Why is Social Media So Important for Porn Stars?

**“When I look at most models, actresses, and singers in mainstream, I find that I know very little about the person. Many A-listers don’t have an account on Twitter or Facebook, and if they do it’s usually maintained by an assistant or…
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Trading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink Curious Women

Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance.  CaféMom/The Stir’s “Women Who Want…
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I Don’t Like You Much, Christian Grey

A few days ago, one of the local radio news stations interviewed us for their “50 shades of Grey” series. I was interested in talking about the book. One way or the other it’s an important book right now. It’s on paper, it’s got a cardboard cover, it’s written with an incessant and continual internal dialogue that makes you want to stick needles in your face, it’s on the bestseller list.
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You want more S&M classes? Get ready for BDSM 201: Dungeons for Beginners!

Our BDSM 101: 50 Shades of Taboo class last night at Taboo Tabou was AWESOME!  Thanks to everyone who came out! The turnout was wonderful and I’m already receiving all sorts of private notes from attendees thanking Ken and I for teaching…
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Stop Hating on 50 Shades of Grey!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DbVNu-4uao8[/youtube]   My fellow literary snobs, sex educators, kinksters & sex positive community members may be shocked to hear me say this: STOP HATING ON 50 SHADES OF GREY! Yep,…
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10 Things to Read After 50 Shades of Grey

Maybe you really enjoyed 50 Shades and you want to know what you could read next. Here are some options. All of these are written to subjectify the female player- to give her life and let her fantasy really guide the book. Even if she is the submissive- the object of affection and intrigue, use and abuse, she is the window through which the story is told.
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BDSM Without Sex?

When we hear words like fetish, kink, BDSM or S&M we immediately think sex. BDSM is an acronym many in the mainstream consider synonymous with S&M. Technically it stands for bondage & discipline (BD), dominance & submission (DS) and sadism & masochism (SM). In other words-- whatever it is you like that’s kinky, whether on the giving or receiving end, is included in the all encompassing label of BDSM.
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50 Shades of Grey Gift Set Giveaway!

I’m giving away a 50 Shades of Grey gift package! Are you dying to read the book that has everyone talking?  It seems everyone has an opinion about it— now you can judge for yourself! This gift package is valued at over $65 and…
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The Journey of Self Love – My Masturbation Story

May is International Masturbation Month!  This article was written by Sunny Megatron for and originally appearing in Lidia-Anain's Sex Love Joy.  During the entire month of May 2012, Sex Love Joy will feature a collection of masturbation…
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Detroit’s Local 4 News Filming of BDSM Club Irresponsible Journalism

I just learned Detroit's Local 4 News planted someone at a local BDSM Dungeon party and will broadcast images of the guests captured on a hidden camera on tonight's 11pm news.  The angle of the story is something to the effect of "OMG! Are…
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Talk about Birds, Bees and Disease with your Grandparents!

Our parents and grandparents didn’t grow up learning about condoms in their high school and college health classes.  After becoming single after loss of a spouse or divorce, many are hitting the dating pool for the first time in years.  Contrary…
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Vote for Weird Chicago Tours – Best of 2012 + Film Shoot Update

As many of you know, I am a tour guide for Weird Chicago Tours.  I host every type of tour offered at Weird Chicago -- Serial Killer, Weird & Haunted, Devil & The White City, True Crime & Gangster, etc.   On this site I am…
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Nothing Like a Soccer Mom DP’ed on National TV!

  This Liquid Plumr Deep Impact TV ad is hilarious!  I am also thankful to see the portrayal of a seemingly realistic woman who not only digs sex but isn’t afraid to get her freak on.  Hurray for MFM threesomes with hot plumbers! Whew!…
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Ellen’s 50 Shades of Grey + Bonus S&M Barbara Walters

  As if we need another reason to love Ellen.  Ellen Reads from 50 Shades of Grey: http://youtu.be/on3JCwnwHbU     Is it wrong that I can't get the image of Ellen topping Barbara Walters out of my head? And that…
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Consensus: Grannies Hate Anal Sex!

This hilarious letter from a granny declaring to her college aged granddaughter “never do ANAL sex!” apparently wasn’t enough. Check out this latest video where 3 grandmothers watch the Kim Kardashian sex tape.  They don’t dig the…
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Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist

Upon meeting a prospective partner in a coffee shop or at the corner bar, they often become “Coffee Shop Hottie” or “Corner Bar Dude” in casual conversation amongst friends. When I first met the love of my life, my best friend and I secretly referred to him as “The Sex Clown.”
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Navigating Consent & Setting Sexual Boundaries: Yes/No/Maybe List

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  It’s a topic I am very passionate about. I devoted a lot of time this month to speaking and teaching about sexual consent.  In my Sexual Consent Workshops we learn about consent in the context…
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How to Give Prostate Massage: Instructional Videos

Below are a few instructional videos on prostate massage we found helpful. In the first, Jennah Adams shows you how to milk the prostate with a gloved finger. In the second Brianna Beach demos with an Aneros Prostate Massager. The bottom video is the very first video I ever watched about prostate massage. I really like this last video because it shows the actual massage in more detail. Also, they are the cutest couple ever!