Age play and Daddy play are often misunderstood to those outside of the kinky community.  One can assume the role of Daddy/Mommy or boy/boi/girl regardless of their actual age or gender.  The article below from guest author, Fetlife’s WizarDavid, gives a very accurate peek into the relationship of a Daddy Dominant and Babygirl.  This is part of a series of articles called Beyond 50 Shades of Grey that take a deeper, more realistic look at elements of BDSM.  Get ready to go Beyond 50 Shades. 

Just what is a Daddy Dom? Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. He chooses the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of dominance and submission (D/s). Let’s get one thing out of the way right at the beginning. A Daddy Dom does not promote incest or pedophilia as the kink may be misunderstood by ignorant people. Rather, in this specific subcategory, the dynamic is set up for the male dominant to be called “Daddy,” and the female submissive (sub) to be called “girl,” “little girl,” or “babygirl,” etc. Rarely is she called “daughter,” as this evokes too many parallels to incest, which Daddies and their girls detest. And while some doms and some subs may have been victims of family violence, incest, or other abuse, Daddy Doms and their girls are not overrepresented in these categories any more than the general population.

The following are some of the fundamental characteristics, and indeed needs, that all Daddy dominants seem to share universally:

1.  Her Number One Fan, the Daddy usually believes in his girl more than she herself does, and often uses the wisdom of his age to see her not only for who she is, but also for who she can become. A Daddy’s eyes light up when his girl enters the room. He is proud of her and praises her for not just for what she accomplishes, but for what she attempts, and for who she is. He accepts her for who she is, flaws and all.

2.  And he knows all her flaws because he is also her ultimate Confidant, allowing her to bare her soul to him beyond all others. She may have many different relationships and types of friends in her life. But Daddy will be her “umbrella confidant.” The one with whom she can talk about absolutely anything and trust that what she tells Daddy stays with Daddy. He is the one from whom she withholds nothing. The one who doesn’t mind if she needs to call and talk at 3am.

3.  He is the Protector of his girl against real or perceived threats, dangers, and bad people. Sometimes a little girl just needs to curl up in Daddy’s arms and smile at some of his bluster, and sometimes the Daddy may have to act on his protective instincts. Pity the person who messes with a Daddy’s girl.

4.  Her Teacher and mentor shows her new things that come from a longer and possibly wider set of life experiences. Daddy likes to take his girl to places she has never been, feed her foods she has never eaten, and do activities she has never enjoyed before. He is never so happy as when he can look in her eyes and know he has given her something she has never had before. This also translates into sexual adventurism for some Daddy/girl couples. He symbolically deflowers her on a regular basis, whether that be sexual or just in exposure to new life adventures.

5.  He wants to be her Guide and advisor. As the girl makes her way in the world, Daddy wants to be there to answer her questions, calm her fears, make her insecurities go away, and give her sound advice based on his years of experience.

6.  Anchor. The Daddy dom is an unyielding, unmovable anchor in the storm. No matter what happens in the girl’s life, she knows her Daddy will be right there where he has always been, and she can hold onto that even if she is blinded by her own tears. Daddies know the storm will pass, and she will be safe, but she needs something to hold onto that will not move.

7.  Disciplinarian. When the girl acts badly, she expects to be disciplined or punished for the infraction. Most Daddy dominants find it occasionally difficult to keep this up, especially as the affection for their girl grows. They would love nothing more than to spoil their girls, but they realize this is the path to ruin. One a girl begins to believe she can manipulate Daddy, she no longer sees him as her dominant, unyielding anchor. A girl needs the stability and protection of a man who is more dominant than she is. To demonstrate that characteristic, Daddies must sometimes be excessively strict and rigid, more so than they would in normal relationships. The act of disciplining the girl may be used as part of a sadomasochistic activity.

In addition to these practically mandatory characteristics, some couples add their own sadism and masochism to the mix, and may use the concept of the wolf or lion and little lamb to describe the way in which the Daddy simultaneously protects his little girl from the world, and yet wants to dominate and devour her sexually. As a sadist, he may create the very tears that he will later kiss away. Sounds sweet, and yet terrifying, if you are not accustomed to the world of sadomasochism in which these participants operate. But to a Daddy and his girl who are into BDSM, this is the most perfect of scenarios they can imagine to act out their fetish.

Daddies come in many flavors, just as their girls do. Some Daddies may have polyamorous girls who have male and female lovers, and Daddy may be that one person outside the polyamory “family” who does not judge her. A Daddy and his girl might not have a sexual relationship at all. Since this is typically a D/s construct, there is usually a sexual component, but as can be seen from the above list of characteristics, sex is not the largest factor or the motivating force in this type of relationship. A Daddy may have more than one girl, may be married and have a girl, too, or may have other types of combinations. But it is rare for a girl to have more than one Daddy.

It is said that “a Top is for tonight, a Dominant is for as long as she is submissive, a Master is there until she is no longer a slave, but a Daddy is forever.” Daddy may have to give his girl away to a husband. He may eventually run out of things to teach his little girl. She may ultimately not need his sage advice and his experience any more. Hopefully he will be too old by then to have to deal with it, because when there is nothing left to teach, no need for a confidant, no discipline needing to be meted out, when his little girl no longer needs her Daddy, that’s when he will die inside. The need that Daddy has for his girl is every bit as potent as the need she has for her Daddy.

A Daddy usually knows he is one. He doesn’t have to be convinced of it, or taught how to be a Daddy. He may only need to have his innate Daddy characteristics pointed out to him. It might happen in the throes of a sexual activity when she exclaims “Daddy” for the first time, and the light goes on. Similarly, the little girl usually knows she needs a Daddy without having to be taught how to be his little girl. Once they identify themselves as Daddy/Little Girl, the draw is more powerful than many other forms of attraction, because it is rooted in deep-seated and old emotions that may not have any other outlet.

Girls in this lifestyle do not act like little girls in their normal work lives. They do not bring teddy bears to work. Indeed many are older women who are very assertive and successful in the business world, but need this special place to get nurturing and comfort lacking in their careers. A Daddy might not necessarily act parental or fatherly in his normal work life either. For some it may be role playing, for some it is a secret lifestyle, and other couples delight in the joys of unabashedly practicing the Daddy/girl dynamic in public. In any case, it evokes deep-seated needs and emotions for both parties, and is a very powerful dynamic.

While some of these characteristics could easily be applied to any good male-female relationship, there are some that require something quite different than the “50/50 partnership” that is so often touted as the most healthy. This is not 50/50. This is a Dominant/submissive relationship, and all the characteristics should be viewed through the lens of D/s.

And while many of the characteristics could also be easily applied to any good D/s or Master/slave relationship, there are some characteristics that are decided different. Not all Masters consider themselves their slave’s number one fan or her umbrella confidant. Teacher, guide, and anchor are not necessarily roles that a Master is required to adopt.

This is nowhere near a complete treatise on Daddy/girl relationships. It does not address the possibility that parent-child ego states (Transactional Analysis) are the preferred communication mode. It does not address the “play space” created by the Daddy for the girl to enjoy feeling “little,” or many other aspects that make D/g different from other D/s, M/s and similar dynamics. But this description of Daddy Dom characteristics will hopefully be useful as a baseline explanation of what makes a Daddy tick.

Big thanks to WizarDavid for giving me permission to repost this. This is one of the best write-ups on Daddy play I’ve seen. Do keep in mind this is written based off of the author’s own experiences as a male who plays with females. There are other points to be made about butch Daddies, Mommies, etc.  
 
If anyone would like to write a follow up addressing butch Daddy play, leather Daddy play, Mommy play or from the point of view of a girl/boy/boi, please let me know. 
 
Lastly, some of you have expressed the desire to play with this dynamic but don’t have a willing partner. Sometimes the best way to explore a new kind of roleplay is with a professional. You can always hire a pro-Daddy, Mommy or submissive from a site like Slixa.com
 
~Sunny Megatron
110 replies
    • Heather
      Heather says:

      It is misunderstood mostly because of the labels and society’s misunderstanding of D/s power dynamics, and BDSM in general.

      Reply
      • Stephen Nyberg
        Stephen Nyberg says:

        Agreed…I have been in the lifestyle for over 15 years and have ALWAYS been a Daddy Dom, most people definitely misunderstand it just because of the titles.

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        • B
          B says:

          I just started this with my wife I’ve never done it before I enjoy doing it with her but I always worry if I’m doing right what’s the best way to start to be a Daddy dom? Like I st I’m a very and I want to do this right and I just started I would appreciate any tips to win her confidence more she says I’m doing good but I want to do more I feel like I’m not appreciate any help?

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    • Josh
      Josh says:

      Not really. Not traditional gender roles anyway, at least not in my experience. It’s about unfulfilled psychological needs of a person for paternal attachment. On a cognitive level there may even be some value to it Especially when there is no sex involved, which is often the case. Generally, a daddy dom caters to the need for security, guidance, and a more attached sense of stability the submissive has often been or percieves themselves to have been deprived of. Nothing says fantasy has to be confined to sexuality or gender norms.

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      • B
        B says:

        I just started being a daddy Dom me and my wife enjoy doing things we do I don’t know everything about it she knew a little bit more than I did I try to do and tell her for example what positions I want to do and do something things like that and I just want to win her confidence more I want to her to have more security and believe in me more I feel like she don’t she acts like she does but I just want to be for sure how do I know for sure give me some tips on how I can be more confident I do give her love and and hold her when she’s needed and like I said I also tell her what we can do in sex but I want to learn more to have the confidence and win the confidence of her to be the daddy how do I do that?

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    • Steven
      Steven says:

      You will find him when you least expect it but a true daddy would never ever want sex first times to go to dinner or talk unless the chemistry is just unreal true. It’s not about sex as it is her and yourself and building a relationship few people ever get to understand in life. FETLIFE OK but sort of an impersonal place. Try local. Munched and such just don’t be used for sex. That’s not a true Dom a real Daddy.

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      • DaddiesLittle
        DaddiesLittle says:

        I agree with Steven. Very well said. I’ve been Daddies little girl for13 years, and I always will be. He is truly my safe place, but also my secret place where everything including my thoughts and desires are okay, no matter how naughty or “bad” some might judge them to be. I’m sure you can find a Dom relatively anywhere, but daddies, especially good daddies are Not a dime a dozen.

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      • KTyonS
        KTyonS says:

        Super new, and this article describes my guy to the T… I always kinda wanted this dynamic, didn’t want to look for it, and he came when i least expected him to… I don’t even know if he’s into the “lifestyle”… I know i must call him Daddy though… It’s super sexy to me… He did ask for sex the first night, after dinner and riding through the city, then talking for hours… But, i didn’t give in for a few weeks…

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      • Jade
        Jade says:

        Hi, I’m new in this kind of things and I want to find a daddy but I don’t want only for sex, I want a real relation but online I find anything, do you have any advice or sites for DD/BG?

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      • DaddiesLittle
        DaddiesLittle says:

        I met my Daddy while looking for a job. I was a “virgin” to the lifestyle and to the knowledge of the lifestyle. I got much h more than a job.

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  1. Daddy
    Daddy says:

    Wow, you just nailed it, described me…You’re so spot on…And my challenge in this type of relationship is being the disciplinarian as you mentioned…Pretty amazing research and writing on your part..

    Thanks,
    Daddy

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    • Dainis Graveris
      Dainis Graveris says:

      What I’ve found to be really helpful is actually reading DDLG fiction books (there are quite a bit of them in Amazon).
      Just pick up the most popular books and if women like and read them, that means, that’s how they want to be treated :)

      50 Shades of Grey movie also indicates that women crave something like that… maybe not so deep ownership, but yeah..they want some!

      Oh another thing, here’s a Definite DDLG guide, that shows quite a bit of scenes that could be played…and really explains and shows the power balance that creates awesome relationships.

      https://sexualalpha.com/ddlg/

      Yeah, but in the end it’s still about practice :) The more you do, the better you get! That’s what I’m seeing in my own relationships :) The better I become the more passionate our relationships become and it’s awesome!

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      • B
        B says:

        How did you all get there I know u said u done alot of it but what was the main thing your daddy did to make you feel so secure?

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  2. LittleLily
    LittleLily says:

    Wow I am impressed reading this article:) It was very enjoyable to read… I’m a little girl;) and I am only attracted to Daddy types…The attraction is so strong…As soon as I detect Daddy traits in a man, I start to get nervous, shy, blushing and giggling…:)

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    • BabyGrl
      BabyGrl says:

      I think that daddy’s are pretty sexy by themselves and I would love to get under the blanket will one

      From your sex wanting friend,
      Daddy’s babygirl

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    • Roxanne
      Roxanne says:

      Wow i have that too. Known my daddy for three years now and every time I see him, I feel nervous and shy. Never had that before.

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    • Miss
      Miss says:

      I’m the same,

      I feel a little ashamed but my new daddy is making me feel comfortable.

      It’s still early days but it’s going great so far, and we accept each others needs.

      He talks to me as if he was my daddy and calls me his little princess which is heart warming.

      Hes much more intelligent than me, what if I cant live up to that? He did say he will teach me and I am eager to learn.

      Xx

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    • Nonya business
      Nonya business says:

      Shouldn’t be watching porn when you have a lady. How disrespected would you feel to see her pleasuring herself to somebody else but you, or if she were in one of those videos? Maybe she needs a Daddy, talk to her about it

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      • Andrew Stewart
        Andrew Stewart says:

        You’re correct in THAT their dynamic, it’s nobody’s business. She may also enjoy porn, do we know anything? Brave enough to comment & then have you judge? Who are you to judge? You’re need to evolve is so evident in your narrow mindedness.

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      • Ben
        Ben says:

        Lol, my partner DOES watch porn and I would never want to take that away from her. Sex is amazing and we have a fantastic sex life with each other but part of having a healthy sex life is having your own sexual identity. Masturbation is still important, and pornography can be a great outlet for private fantasies during “me time.” She deserves her occasional private time, so do I.

        Unless it’s an addiction or invasive habit, Anyone that feels threatened by the fact that their partner occasionally enjoys masturbation or watches pornography has some serious insecurity/control issues.

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        • Melin
          Melin says:

          Well said Ben!
          My daddy dom and I love each other very much and do not want to venture outside of our monogomy( have talked about 3somes, but both too possesive lol) but we certainly love porn, love our active, kinky imaginations & will keep wanting to please each other within our boundries. We realize we can think other people, kinky stuff is hot but loving and having a relationship is something we only reserve for each other and do not want to break those bonds by bringing anyone else into our relationship at this time.
          A desire to please one another, not try to manipulate and control, have open and honest,communication is a solid foundation for a relationship to flourish and keep growing:))

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  3. Pricila Cruz
    Pricila Cruz says:

    Very well written. My Daddy Dom has all of these characteristics. He actually asked me to read this. The article mentions that there may be a time where we don’t need our Daddy anymore. I don’t see why that would happen..I mean Daddy is my everything. He is not only my Daddy Dom but he is also my partner. Our bond is strong and unlike any other relationship I have ever been in. -Skittles

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    • james
      james says:

      in fact… as so many of my relationships resemble this dynamic – though the label of daddy/baby girl wasn’t categorised back in this days lol , every one of my past partners, did indeed no longer need me…
      it took me years to realise this as a positive result, not a failure within my own character. Though conversely now that I’m older, I also think that it is also possible that daddy doesn’t need his baby girl any longer – and the equality of how this should evolve (from my current perspective) should also be possible.

      it was an interesting read :)

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    • Steven
      Steven says:

      It’s true baby. I had a baby doll 20. I always told her she would be gone one day and she would sob as she wanted to marry me. No baby the age 1. But 2 you have a beautiful life to live and have a family. Daddy is here to set you on that path. Do I love you? More than you ever know but I’m a disciplinary figure in your life to teach you to be an incredible woman in life. She said it will never happen I’ll be here forever. 4 years past her gone and she won’t even text at times. A Daddy does know his girl.
      Please listen to him..

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    • Dragonfly
      Dragonfly says:

      I feel the same way. My daddy was scared when he read that part but I can’t see ever not needing him. He’s my world. Always will be.

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  4. ART
    ART says:

    Great find and read. Currently in an amazing Daddy babygirl relationship. She fits the mold to a T. The emotions of all aspects are powerful. She feels in touch with me as I do require a willinh little girl to grow with.

    Thank you all

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  5. Dan
    Dan says:

    Full disclosure, but need some help understanding. If a husband, yes me, fullfils 4 out of the 7 Daddy descriptors. Would it be uncommon for a wife to sneak around to either a) find a new daddy to fill the other 3; or b) find a daddy to fill all 7? This is all new to me. As my wife’s iPhone syncs to the family computer. And, she filmed her escapades. That is how I found out that she was living this other life. Thank you in advance for some guidance.

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  6. Lauren
    Lauren says:

    My husband is my daddy Dom. I call him “Daddy” in and out of the bedroom. He is the leader in our household. He spanks me when I’m too rude or disobedient. Our marriage improved greatly once I left the corporate world and became a housewife.

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    • Nina
      Nina says:

      Do you not enjoy spankings? I ask because spankings are usually a reward. So if your Daddy is spanking you every time you are bad he is just encouraging you to misbehave.

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      • cynthia
        cynthia says:

        I am a baby girl submissive have bern for yrs

        this is my take on spanking
        there is playful spanking

        there is sexual spanking a turn on

        there is discipline spanking

        for me I enjoy the playful spanking n the sexual turn on spanking

        but discipline / punishment spanking totaly different mindset n often brings tears n apologies
        it’s NOT a Reward at all

        some people may not understand this esp a new person that’s not a real Dom

        a real Daddy Dom understands this n knows his lil girl

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        • Lopes
          Lopes says:

          Good girl, you definitely get it. There are absolutely different styles of spanking. My little knows when she has been bratty and Daddy has to correct her

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  7. Paige Elise
    Paige Elise says:

    I am new to the DD/lg type of relationship, I have always been a submissive person, and it was until i got with my boyfriend now did it come to light that i am a little…I don’t act like a child however everything ive read on the topic sounds like my relationship and someone help me understand this type of relationship?

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  8. babygirlk94
    babygirlk94 says:

    i won’t ever grow up i promise you, it is such a comfort zone for me that when triggered (I have mental health issues) i run for it like it’s air. It also helps with symptoms from my mental health.

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  9. Nina
    Nina says:

    This is such an excellent explanation of what a Daddy is. I use this article to help explain being a Daddy to people that are new to BDSM or have other ideas of what they think a Daddy is (and are usually pretty offensive).
    The only thing I think need to be pointed out is that not all Daddies are men, and their littles are not always women. I have met many Daddies and littles all across the gender spectrum. I am a cis woman submissive and little, and I only will be with butch or trans guys that are Daddies.

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  10. Rain
    Rain says:

    Wow I came across this and thought it be an interesting read, but I realize that all that you described as daddy treats, is everything I have been wanting from my relationships. Perhaps that’s way I can’t find someone that treats me right. I thought I was just to child like to ever have a satisfying relationship with. I thought I was to little at heart and could never understand way. Thank you.

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  11. Genevieve
    Genevieve says:

    This was thoughtfully and beautifully written. Wow. I knew these things already ,but reading it in this new light opened my eyes even more. I wish I had a Daddy.

    Reply
  12. Shy and lost
    Shy and lost says:

    How would someone new to this, but recently self identifying go about finding a community of like minded people? I feel empowered with knowledge but lost on how to connect with others because it’s not something that’s brought up in casual conversation. Especially when I start getting too shy to even discuss it with close friends. Some help would be great!

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    • Sunny Megatron
      Sunny Megatron says:

      I suggest starting by going to Fetlife.com and looking for DDLG groups. You don’t even have to interact, just reading will give you some info. And remember, since all content there is user-generated it may not be 100 % accurate (and there can be creeps on Fetlife just like there are on every social media or dating site). But as far as finding a central repository of info, that is probably your best bet.

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  13. Annetta
    Annetta says:

    My husband has become a daddy dom to another person. I am not in this lifestyle and it is very confusing. It has been 4 months and the worst 4 months of my life. Are there any boundaries in this thing or they just do what they want. I am trying to find out what rules and rights I even have or is my marriage over due to the baby girl. Please help.

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    • yes-Daddy
      yes-Daddy says:

      Hi Annetta,
      Firstly – full dislosure – I am a Daddy Dom and also, separately married.
      I can understand why you’re feeling worried and being left behind. In my case, the 2 relationships co-exist ok, but can be a difficult balance to keep emotionally. They are, of course very different in what I want to get out them both.
      With my little girl I want to experiment, I want to feel flushed and hot with her. In short I wouldn’t want to put my very gentle wife through the scenes I do with my sub.
      But I also love the family life, stability and deep love I have for my wife. Of course we’ve known each other for years and can practically read and 2nd guess each other.
      Do you find that you are the dominant one when you have sex? Is it quite straightforward and non- kinky sex? This could be what he craves too.
      One other thing – relationships are nothing without communication. So talk! Ironically the Daddy/little girl relationship also needs communication too to really work.
      Happy to talk more if you need to.

      yes-Daddy x

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  14. Nathan Drake
    Nathan Drake says:

    So my wife is into DDLG and I’ve never experienced that kind of relationship. I do have the qualities as being the protector, teacher, number one fan, confidant,guide and anchor but not disciplinarian so if anyone could help me out that would be perfect. All the other wualties match myself perfectly though

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    • cynthia
      cynthia says:

      if your wife identifies as a little / submissive it’s not. sm thing that will go away n she will not be fulfilled with out it
      also you must learn to be s Dom n Daddy n with that come discipline / punishment your little / wife craves it I assure you of that she wont be happy w out it but u also need to have self control during discipline

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  15. Princess
    Princess says:

    Amazing. A lot of people on the outside of this lifestyle look in and see everything all wrong. I’m so glad this was written. Thank you

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  16. jon
    jon says:

    HI
    i find this an interesting read. i am a daddy from Sydney, Australia. I am happy to communicate to like minded individuals and obviously would like to reach out to little girls

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  17. Heather V
    Heather V says:

    In the article above, you state that of anyone wants to contribute from the perspective of a submissive to a Daddy, or tray of a girl/boi/boy, to let you know. I’d like to contribute.

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  18. Dragonfly
    Dragonfly says:

    My Daddy and I just realized that we’re in a Daddy/babygirl relationship. It’s so reliving to read this and find out there’s others like us.

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  19. Lopes
    Lopes says:

    Wow, this article was such a good read. I am new Daddy but this definitely describes me to the tee. I didn’t know that I would have such amazing Daddy Dom qualities until I found my little girl.

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  20. Rose
    Rose says:

    I’m fairly new to DD/lg,I identify myself as a lg thing is I live in CA,LA.There is a certain look over here men like I’m into Older men betwee. 40-50 yrs old.I don’t know id I’ll ever find anyone.

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  21. PleaserOntario
    PleaserOntario says:

    Is there such thing as the opposite? A mommy dom, and would that be too weird for most women, preference aside?

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  22. Spices Of Lust
    Spices Of Lust says:

    Hey there, I’m so happy I found this article.

    We, my wife and I, started a sex blog a while ago (5 months). We consider ourself kinky and we did try a lot of things, but also, there is a lot of things we didn’t try out. For me, your article will be and is great learning material, as I’m trying to learn and practice my Dom side.

    You can see what we write about by following the link in my name.

    Do you have any other reading suggestions?

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  23. Kat
    Kat says:

    Why does there have to be “Discipline” involved? As child, my parents “disciplined” me and I learned nothing but to resent them and hide my true self from them.

    I want my Daddy to guide me and hold me accountable without making me feel bad, or hurting me. (I’m not into pain)

    I can be shown my shortcomings with love and respect…

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  24. Shannon
    Shannon says:

    Wow I truly enjoyed this article I have recently come to terms that truly I want this for myself and being single hopeful but nervous in Phoenix Arizona in not certain to even go about meeting someone like this Daddy I mean but again hopeful thank you for the insight ❤️

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  25. Chasity
    Chasity says:

    Have been a submissive for years, always had a Master and my life was always so stressful. 5 months ago I met my Daddy, who is an amazing man on fetlife and I have never been happier!! I was iffy on the whole Daddy thing for the longest time and now I don’t know why!! This relationship is the most gratifying and happiest of my entire life!!

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  26. Becca Kay
    Becca Kay says:

    I was trying to find out the differences between Daddy/lg and Master/slave when I came across this. After having seen a myriad of sites with nothing clear about the Daddy/lg, it was a great relief to find this. My Master has been into the lifestyle for years whereas I have been in it for a scant handful of months. Prior to it all of my relationships were vanilla as well as that I had no exposure to it. It is still a lot of getting used to!

    I am naturally a strong, vibrant woman who tends to bull her way through a china shop. For that, though, there *is* the need for nurture, particularly when it can be difficult to stand as the lone tree amongst the storms of life. Having found him, we began diving into our dynamic. He is not overly harsh. If anything, this article describes him to a ‘T’.

    Though I am older than he by a couple of years, he has experienced a lot more (I still blush and/or have my mouth open at some of the things he shows me…I mean, who knew that there were such wondrous things out in the world? Huge mountains, games where you can actually *fly* and see so amazingly….and I am rambling…). He is such a protector even keeping me safe from myself. Then, there are the times when my inner self-doubt rises and he does not judge me at all. Rather, he soothes me and tells me to see myself through his eyes. I may never believe I am as wonderful as he sees me…but it helps. A lot.

    Regarding the needing him/vice versa…Those who continue to live continue to gain new experiences. No two people experience the same thing in the same way. Therefore it seems like there will always be something to learn from him. It is truly a delightful experience!

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  27. BabyNanO
    BabyNanO says:

    I’m new to all of this and I think this article is great! It really explains alot of questions and concerns i had. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this. Someday I truly hope to miss the Daddy of my dreams.

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    • BabyNanO
      BabyNanO says:

      I’m new to all of this and I think this article is great! It really explains alot of questions and concerns i had. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this. Someday I truly hope to meet the Daddy of my dreams.

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  28. Jade
    Jade says:

    Hi, I’m new in this kind of things and I really want to find a daddy but I don’t want only for sex, I want a real relation but online I found anything, do you have any advices or websites for DD/BG?

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  29. Little Magdalene
    Little Magdalene says:

    I was a sex worker for years and years. It was a good gig and I could write an entire book about navigating that world as therapy for past trauma.
    My Daddy walked in as a client one day and we became hooked on each other immediately.
    He’s so sexy and confident. He saved my ad for months because he didn’t see SWers often, but told me something about my photos made him revisit the thought of me, but he also thought I was “too good to be true”.

    I got addicted to him quick and left the world of sex work, even when he said he didn’t want to make me leave….He just didn’t want to know/hear about clients….But I left regardless and tried to work a vanilla job.
    I was fired within a month for not fitting in, and my Daddy came to my rescue when my utilities were cut off the day I was fired. I cried my eyes out and wanted to die. I even harmed myself…like a stupid little child…and was hospitalized about a week ago. I’ve worked in management before and I know I’m capable in a professional environment…I just don’t handle rejection well, so I overreacted when I thought I was doing so well for such a demanding job.

    Without my Daddy, my life would be extremely dark. He lights up my life. He was my first experience into anal and was considerate but also commanding. He talked me through my breathing and was gentle. I came without other stimulation my first time.

    He also cuddles me all night and gives me aftercare. My best sleeps are next to Daddy…and I have nightmares and night terrors. He has some weird radar that wakes me from a bad dream and holds me while telling me I’m loved and safe.

    I love my Daddy so much. Even when I’m spanked or punished for being a brat or acting out…I still love being near Him. He’s so good to me and takes me places, mentally and otherwise, that I never thought possible.

    I’m so lucky to be His little girl, His little angel, His little demon, and His little slut. ^_^

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    • LordVerde
      LordVerde says:

      I have been asking bg’s about their reciprocal side coming from them? How often to you tell or ask your DD things like that you need him, say you enjoy the time with him, show him that he is wanted, ask him how his day is going, you miss him, thinking of him and etc? Do you? Is that part of your dynamic? how frequent is the exchange if it occurs?

      Respectfully
      ~LV

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  30. Chris
    Chris says:

    Can this type of relationship work with a nonbinary person as all those characteristics fit me as the baby but I prefer to go by kitten and they/them?

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    • Blue
      Blue says:

      I didnt see where anyone had answered your question. The answer is of course it works with NB people. In fact in my own experience I have seen many people who are Trans, NB,or Asexual have excelent relationships with their Daddies or Mommies especially in reguard to that anchoring psuedoparental devotion to each other in a world that is sometimes cruel.

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  31. Martin Moore
    Martin Moore says:

    When I was young, my first experience was with an older dominant ‘mommy’. She was very beautiful, powerful, and rich. She was a showstopper. Every time she walked into a room everyone’s eyes were on her. I thought that I scored myself a trophy and was very proud of myself. However, she was in control the whole time and thought me a lot more than sex. She helped me become a strong, independent man that bows to no one. That’s where our paths parted.

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  32. Melissa
    Melissa says:

    I and my husband decided to give this play a try. Apparently, I don’t always need to be strong and independent. Playing a brat and giving him full control is insanely sexy.

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  33. Shylilone
    Shylilone says:

    I’m fairly new and still trying to learn but I’ve been with a couple Dom’s that have been arrogant and use their looks and scare tactics to make me do what they want. I don’t believe this is how they should treat a person. For example putting my pictures on the web for my kids to see. I’m just looking for someone to treat me right and make me feel like a princess. What do I do?

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  34. Eric Daniels
    Eric Daniels says:

    Just starting my journey as a daddy/Dom had no clue of what it entailed this article has given me the insight that is necessary to be the best Daddy/Dom I can be. Thanks for the Insight

    Reply

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