September 23rd, 2012 is Bisexuality Day. We need more visible bisexual role-models and supporters so I’m doing my part! I dig everyone– dudes, chicks, people whose plumbing traditionally matches their gender, those who don’t match and everywhere in between. Some may call that bisexual, some pansexual and some queer. Whatever label you choose for yourself […]
Last night I hosted a 50 Shades of Grey Book Club at the Elmwood Park Public Library. I’ve hosted other 50 Shades book clubs but this was my first at a public library. What a wonderful turn-out! This was the largest book club audience the library had ever hosted! I was very much taken aback […]
This is a must read article on pubic hair from Good Vibrations Blog. It’s like the author, Alyssa Royse, and I are twin souls. Like her, I didn’t remove my pubic hair until well into my 30’s. I can’t love my hair(less)style enough. Sometimes I wonder why I didn’t do it sooner. Sex is better for me […]
The Travel Channel segment we filmed in May aired last night. Woo-hoo! It’s for a show called Extreme Tours and features some of the stops I visit hosting a Weird Chicago Tours Red Light District Tour.
Through the months of editing I kept wondering how they were going to dumb-down the sex tour for G-rated television. On the tour we don’t hold back. How was I going to do a sex toy demonstration, visit a BDSM Dungeon or do and say even a fraction of the stuff that normally occurs?
Woo-hoo! It’s time for another sex toy contest! The fine folks at California Exotics have graciously sponsored this giveaway. They sent me a blue Butterfly Kiss G-spot Vibrator to give to a lucky winner! The reviewers over at Eden Fantasies love this one. It’s rated among the top 10 G-spot vibrators on the site! It’s also […]
Female condoms feel AMAZING! As someone with a vagina I can personally say using female condoms feels a bit more like sex without a condom. The male lovers I have used them with say they feel especially out of this world to a penis. Many men say it’s close to the sensation of bare-backing. Female condoms feel so natural because they warm up to the temperature of the wearers body. As an added bonus, when used for man/woman sex, the clitoris can be stimulated by the condoms outer ring and the tip of the penis stimulated by the inner ring.
It’s Anal August! To celebrate I’ve put together a video about safer analingus (and bonus safer cunnilingus too!). Most of us know we can use dental dams for oral sex but did you know you can also use a condom or a latex glove (or latex alternative glove if you have a latex allergy)? Also […]
This month the fine folks at California Exotics sent me a wireless remote controlled egg called Body & Soul Remote 1 to review. First of all, I love remote controlled sex toys for couples play. The first time I got one was as a birthday present a few years ago. My partner, Ken, had me […]
Huge thanks to Get Lusty for interviewing me! Below is a re-print of the original article/podcast published on GetLusty.com. Also, if you haven’t checked out Get Lusty, get started! They post a bunch of sex positive, awesome articles every day. You can also find other podcasts on the site featuring people like Pro-Dommes, BDSM enthusiasts and […]
This is part two of What Kink Can Teach Us. The “alternative” community we will be focusing on this week is polyamory and swingers. I must admit. I am completely monogamous and look for/require […]
Hello Glorious Readers! I want to take a minute to say thank you for all of your support. Nearly every day I receive a nice note from someone thanking me for the information and services I provide. That’s why I love my job. Sure, I could make a ton more cash working for the man […]
This was written by Wintersong and previously appeared on BarkingShaman.com. It specifically applies to safety issues around play that involves blood product, such as play-piercing and cutting play. Although this writing specifically applies to blood-play scenarios in a BDSM context, sexually active people from all walks of life can benefit from giving it a read. Please keep in mind, there […]
When I first started buying sex toys, I would usually go the cheap route and get whatever looked the most tempting for under $30. I was in college, so you couldn’t blame me, but of course, these toys didn’t last long. They’d break in half mid-session or mysteriously die without any explanation. I’ve since learned […]
When it comes to vanillas and kinksters there’s a real “us” and “them” attitude. It’s like the Sharks and the Jets (Yes, I’m showing my age . . . and my love for musicals. Quiet, or I’ll dance fight your ass.). If you’re one you can’t be the other. You should never let it be known you occasionally associate with the other side, right? Look how badly that turned out for Tony and Maria.
It’s also assumed if you’re on one side you think the other is less than worthy. Breaking it down to basic stereotypes, vanillas think kinksters are scary and weird. Kinksters think vanillas are unadventurous and boring.
Ben Wa balls, also known as Kegel exercisers, are all the rage. We’ve known for over 1,500 years using them leads to improved vaginal health, better sex and stronger orgasms. You’d think that would be enough to sell anyone. But it wasn’t. Aside from a surge in popularity in the 1970’s, Kegel exercisers largely remained […]
What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it?
I do a whole bunch of odd and interesting things. Strangely, all of my work centers around two of life’s most intriguing, misunderstood and mysterious taboos: sex and death.
Whenever I talk to people who have little to no experience in bondage, domination, sadism, submission, masochism, or the like, I ask them to imagine for me a couple. They are named Chris and Alex. First of all,
Just what is a Daddy Dom? Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. He chooses the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of dominance and submission (D/s). Let’s get one thing out of the way right at the beginning. A Daddy Dom does not
Here’s a quick guide to being secure with who you are, being comfortable with your own feelings, and being able to maintain emotional independence without feeling stifled by other people’s responses…
I am tired, tired, tired of the “Real Women Have Curves” bullshit floating around Facebook. Yes, I have curves. Sometimes I love them and often I hate them. I have major body image issues. They play on my mind every day, every hour. They dictate the choices I make, the mood I’m in, what […]
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYgcpkrw6Lc&feature=plcp[/youtube] Very rarely do I fall in love with a vibrator. I’m picky, tough to arouse and since I’ve sampled some of the best toys out there, I have very high standards. The Jimmyjane Form 2 is one of my favorite vibrators of all time (the other 2 are the California Exotics Silicone Rabbit and The […]
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6i4uYQm_9UU[/youtube] In the video above Ken and I discuss some of the techniques from these prostate milking instructional videos we tried. They were a great success! We encountered some things we didn’t expect (most of them good!) and prostate massage is something we’ve since incorporated on a regular basis in our lovemaking. Recapping some of […]
[youtube]http://youtu.be/GdQfRFHIPYU[/youtube] Before I used the Lia ® Pleasers™ Pleaser 1, I was intrigued by the vibration options. It offers 10 different settings/pulses. It’s also waterproof and made from silicone, which are two big pluses in my book. When I first turned on the toy it was loud. Really loud. The noise is a definite […]
Over the next month or so I’ll be focusing on subjects relating to non-monogamy. I’ll answer many questions for you— from defining lexicon (what’s Poly vs. Open Relationship vs. Mono/Poly, etc) to walking you through the how-to’s (how to approach someone for a threesome, how to ask your partner for an open relationship, etc.) and […]
**“When I look at most models, actresses, and singers in mainstream, I find that I know very little about the person. Many A-listers don’t have an account on Twitter or Facebook, and if they do it’s usually maintained by an assistant or a PR firm simply telling you where to find them next (movie, CD, […]
Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance. CaféMom/The Stir’s “Women Who Want ’50 Shades of Grey’ Sex Can’t Always Be on Top” is the latest in a string of blog posts giving […]
A few days ago, one of the local radio news stations interviewed us for their “50 shades of Grey” series. I was interested in talking about the book. One way or the other it’s an important book right now. It’s on paper, it’s got a cardboard cover, it’s written with an incessant and continual internal dialogue that makes you want to stick needles in your face, it’s on the bestseller list.
Our BDSM 101: 50 Shades of Taboo class last night at Taboo Tabou was AWESOME! Thanks to everyone who came out! The turnout was wonderful and I’m already receiving all sorts of private notes from attendees thanking Ken and I for teaching the class. BDSM is a complicated subject and 2 hour class is barely […]
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DbVNu-4uao8[/youtube] My fellow literary snobs, sex educators, kinksters & sex positive community members may be shocked to hear me say this: STOP HATING ON 50 SHADES OF GREY! Yep, you read that correctly. I’m defending 50 Shades of Grey. Whether you have read the book or not, there are a few things we need to […]
Maybe you really enjoyed 50 Shades and you want to know what you could read next. Here are some options. All of these are written to subjectify the female player- to give her life and let her fantasy really guide the book. Even if she is the submissive- the object of affection and intrigue, use and abuse, she is the window through which the story is told.
When we hear words like fetish, kink, BDSM or S&M we immediately think sex.
BDSM is an acronym many in the mainstream consider synonymous with S&M. Technically it stands for bondage & discipline (BD), dominance & submission (DS) and sadism & masochism (SM). In other words– whatever it is you like that’s kinky, whether on the giving or receiving end, is included in the all encompassing label of BDSM.
I’m giving away a 50 Shades of Grey gift package! Are you dying to read the book that has everyone talking? It seems everyone has an opinion about it— now you can judge for yourself! This gift package is valued at over $65 and includes E.L. James’ book 50 Shades of Grey, a pair of […]
May is International Masturbation Month! This article was written by Sunny Megatron for and originally appearing in Lidia-Anain’s Sex Love Joy. During the entire month of May 2012, Sex Love Joy will feature a collection of masturbation stories by various authors. Check back periodically for new writing. I’ve always masturbated A LOT. I was about […]
I just learned Detroit’s Local 4 News planted someone at a local BDSM Dungeon party and will broadcast images of the guests captured on a hidden camera on tonight’s 11pm news. The angle of the story is something to the effect of “OMG! Are there really crazy sex parties in our quiet suburban neighborhoods!?” The […]
Our parents and grandparents didn’t grow up learning about condoms in their high school and college health classes. After becoming single after loss of a spouse or divorce, many are hitting the dating pool for the first time in years. Contrary to popular belief, seniors have more interest in sex than we give them credit […]
As many of you know, I am a tour guide for Weird Chicago Tours. I host every type of tour offered at Weird Chicago — Serial Killer, Weird & Haunted, Devil & The White City, True Crime & Gangster, etc. On this site I am most known for hosting Weird Chicago Red Light District Sex Tours. The Sex Tours have become so […]
This Liquid Plumr Deep Impact TV ad is hilarious! I am also thankful to see the portrayal of a seemingly realistic woman who not only digs sex but isn’t afraid to get her freak on. Hurray for MFM threesomes with hot plumbers! Whew! *fans self* I think I need my drain snaked and my […]
As if we need another reason to love Ellen. Ellen Reads from 50 Shades of Grey: Is it wrong that I can’t get the image of Ellen topping Barbara Walters out of my head? And that I find it kind of hot (someone photoshop me that!)? You did hear Barbara practically came out as […]
This hilarious letter from a granny declaring to her college aged granddaughter “never do ANAL sex!” apparently wasn’t enough. Check out this latest video where 3 grandmothers watch the Kim Kardashian sex tape. They don’t dig the butt sex either! This had me rolling on the floor! Please, no one tell my grandma I like […]
Upon meeting a prospective partner in a coffee shop or at the corner bar, they often become “Coffee Shop Hottie” or “Corner Bar Dude” in casual conversation amongst friends. When I first met the love of my life, my best friend and I secretly referred to him as “The Sex Clown.”
April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. It’s a topic I am very passionate about. I devoted a lot of time this month to speaking and teaching about sexual consent. In my Sexual Consent Workshops we learn about consent in the context of various relationships like a hook-up, dating, marriage/domestic partnership, a swinging encounter or a […]
Below are a few instructional videos on prostate massage we found helpful. In the first, Jennah Adams shows you how to milk the prostate with a gloved finger. In the second Brianna Beach demos with an Aneros Prostate Massager. The bottom video is the very first video I ever watched about prostate massage. I really like this last video because it shows the actual massage in more detail. Also, they are the cutest couple ever!
There are a few things you may want to ask yourself before you buy your very first sex toy. For starters, you need to determine if you prefer vaginal penetration or clitoral stimulation. Being your first toy, what if you aren’t exactly sure? The toy I most often recommend to first time sex toy buyers […]
This is a wonderful video on how to stimulate the g-spot I have been referring people to for years. You can find clips of the video on various sites but this link has the full 30 plus minute instructional video. Warning, although this is an instructional video, the clip is housed on a porn site and is graphic in nature! It is certainly NOT suitable for work!
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nr6eDmsmajo[/youtube] Watch my video to find out which massager I like better and why. And don’t forget to enter to win a Wahl Electric Massager of your very own! Use the widget down below to enter! You can even submit multiple entries on a daily basis!
I’m happy to announce two of Chicago’s most informative and notorious sex educators are teaching a monthly adult sex-ed series at Taboo Tabou in Chicago! Of course, that’s me and partner, Ken Melvoin-Berg! ZAP! Electric Play is the first in the series. It will take place on Wednesday, March 7th from 7-9pm. We do expect […]
[vimeo]http://vimeo.com/4704237 [/vimeo] I was recently asked to articulate my opinion on cosmetic vaginal surgery, mainly labiaplasty. I promptly re-watched the film linked above, The Perfect Vagina by Heather Leach and Lisa Rogers. I originally saw the film about a year ago. I couldn’t remember all the details from the movie but I did remember it left […]
I’m making my way to L.A.once again to help out partner, Ken Melvoin-Berg, teach ZAP! Electric Toy Play on Saturday, February 18th, 2012 at Stockroom University! Ken and I are both electricity nuts! From violet wands, to neon wands, to TENS units and more, we can’t get enough. During this class we’ll take a look […]
When I was about 7 years old I accidentally heard my mother having sex. I stayed quiet as not to be discovered but had to keep listening out of sheer curiosity. At one point I heard her say in a whispery, trying-too-hard, bedroom voice “put it . . . between my . . . breaasssttts!”
Exciting news! Ken Melvoin-Berg and I have a jam packed weekend head of us. We’re going to sunny L.A.! What are we going to be doing there, you ask? Lots of sexy stuff! On Saturday April 9th , Ken and I are teaching a 3 hour extended Networking for Kinky People class at Stockroom […]
This PSA from Stand up! is of the best anti-bullying videos I’ve seen. It made me cry, damn it! Really, everyone NEEDS to see this. Show your friends, show your kids. We need this happening in every school. [youtube width=”560″ height=”349″]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lrJxqvalFxM[/youtube]
I love Lawrence Barraclough and I don’t care if he has a teeny weenie peener. Besides, size doesn’t matter. Well, yes it does. Well . . . no, it doesn’t really. Okay, maybe a little bit. No? What’s the right answer!? This is a must see documentary for men and women alike. In My Penis […]
A vibrating chess set? Check Mate! This is awesome. This is just another reason I need to be rich (did you see the $10k price tag?!). Offered exclusively by high end naughty shop, Kiki de Montparnasse, each piece is made of medical grade silicone and boasts gold plate accents. A chess board made of dildos. Necessary? Absolutely not. […]
I’m breaking from my usual format to ask for your help. By now you’ve all heard about the horrors the people Japan are facing in the wake of the recent earthquakes, tsunami and nuclear scare. Thousands have been left homeless and large portions of Japan stand in ruin. Ken Melvoin-Berg (from Weird Chicago Tours and […]
Most folks I know in my age group or younger are adamant about safe sex. We pride ourselves on the precautions we take for sexual safety. Those of us 40 and under grew up during the dawning of HIV/AIDS. We know how important condoms are and we would never dream of engaging in unprotected intercourse. […]
It seems fitting my first sexy product review be on The Stockroom’s Fuck Saw. Little did I know the awesome Christmas gift Ken bought me would become THE fucksaw heard around the world. Back before my fucksaw was thrust into the spotlight (yes, this post will be full of groan-worthy fucksaw puns), it was my […]
I continue to be bombarded with countless untruths about what occurred during our lecture on February 21st, 2011 at Northwestern University. It has turned into a global game of telephone. The story has become so distorted and plucked out of context that it no longer resembles the reality of what happened that day. But that’s not the point of this […]
Neil Steinberg, of the Chicago Sun-Times published an editorial regarding Northwestern University Fucksawgate last night. Jim Marcus e-mailed the response below to Neil but is unsure if it will be published in its entirety. There’s a good chance it won’t be published at all. Unfortunately, the four of us have learned the hard way over the […]
I was one of the four guest lecturers at Northwestern University– Ken Melvoin-Berg, Faith Kroll, Jim Marcus and myself. In fact, that infamous fucksaw belongs to me. I have been too crazy with media interviews, real life duties and such to write a proper response to the events at Northwestern University on February, 21st. Some discussions […]
I think I need a petting ring. Am I being stupid? I was first exposed to petting rings exactly 24 hours ago. Upon first laying my eyes on one, I thought: 1. That’s dumb. 2. How do you text, drive or wipe yourself with one on? I know Xtina totally pees on her hand […]
So, did they mean this to be funny? Or are they expecting me to put on my Birkenstocks, stop shaving my armpits and tell everyone how beautiful and empowering this is? Because as much as I love to celebrate the beauty of female genitalia, I can’t NOT laugh at this. Oh please, tell me the […]
Will you be toasting the single life this Valentine’s Day? Are you thanking your lucky stars you’re rid of that narcissistic, psycho-babbling asshole once and for all? Relieved you plucked that waste of breath from your life before February 14th so you didn’t have to burn cash on another asinine, meaningless gift? It’s bad enough […]
I happen to be in love with a lover of all things Cthulhu. This past Christmas I scoured the ends of the earth and the deep depths of the sea for the best Cthulhu merchandise I could get my hands on. Here are some of the treasures I found: Cthulhu GEEKSOAP: This geektacular soap I […]
TMZ reported today former Smashing Pumpkins bassist, D’arcy Wretzky, was arrested in Michigan. Take a good look at the mug-shot. I know what you’re thinking: “OMG! Darcy, honey! What happened!? Are those little meth sores on your face? Thank science we can’t see your teeth!” Wretzky wasn’t jailed for what you might think, folks. She […]
According to an article published this afternoon on Psychology Today, there is a very close relationship between love, sex and food. A few things crossed my mind while reading this article: A. Ah-ha! This is why my partner and I have gained so much weight in the past year! Not because we have absolutely no […]
Oh Margaret, I love you. Can I have your babies? My puss, churns out cute Cho babies Your puss, foaming with rabies My puss, digs Mar-gar-et Your puss, will get put down at the vet Alright, I’ll stop.
Comedian and improv performer Rebecca Drysdale hit a home run with her video for Dan Savage’s It Gets Better Project. Best. ‘It Gets Better’ video. Ever. If you are a parent to a teen, you should have your child watch this. Think the language is too harsh for a 14, 15 or 16 year old? […]
I run a few Facebook fan pages. I have always found it incredibly frustrating as the administrator of a page I can’t get notifications of comments and new posts as I do on my personal page. A couple of weeks ago I found HyperAlerts, a free new 3rd party service that sends you an e-mail […]
Check out Volkswagen’s new spot set to air in the Super Bowl this Sunday. Love it! Now, if they could only invent a new hybrid that would run on The Force . . . . http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R55e-uHQna0
According to CNNMoney.com, you can currently fetch upward of $40 a box on the black market for o.b. tampons. Last fall o.b. mysteriously vanished from store shelves only to pop up again this January in very limited quantities. Ladies, if you are lucky enough to get your hands on a box of o.b., think twice […]
