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Rules, Roleplays & Rituals: How to Bring Kink into Your Bedroom

Whenever I talk to people who have little to no experience in bondage, domination, sadism, submission, masochism, or the like, I ask them to imagine for me a couple. They are named Chris and Alex. First of all,

Beyond 50 Shades, Couples (& more) Play, Guest Posts, Male Sexuality, Relationships & Non-Monogamy, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dominant

Just what is a Daddy Dom? Well, to start with, a Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. He chooses the subcategory of “Daddy” within the lifestyle of dominance and submission (D/s). Let’s get one thing out of the way right at the beginning. A Daddy Dom does not

Guest Posts, Personal Stories, Relationships & Non-Monogamy, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

“A Guide to Emotional Independence” or “How I learned to Stop Worrying & Not Give a Fuck What Other People Think”

Here’s a quick guide to being secure with who you are, being comfortable with your own feelings, and being able to maintain emotional independence without feeling stifled by other people’s responses…

Body Image, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

Body Bashing: There is No Wrong Way to Have a Body

I am tired, tired, tired of the “Real Women Have Curves” bullshit floating around Facebook. Yes, I have curves. Sometimes I love them and often I hate them. I have major body image issues. They play on my mind every…

Masturbation, Orgasms, Sex, Sex Toy Reviews, Videos

Jimmyjane Form 2 Review: I’m in Love!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VYgcpkrw6Lc&feature=plcp[/youtube] Very rarely do I fall in love with a vibrator. I’m picky, tough to arouse and since I’ve sampled some of the best toys out there, I have very high standards. …

Anal Play, Couples (& more) Play, Male Sexuality, Orgasms, Personal Stories, Sex, Videos

Ken & Sunny Milk a Prostate!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6i4uYQm_9UU[/youtube] In the video above Ken and I discuss some of the techniques from these prostate milking instructional videos we tried. They were a great success! We encountered…

Couples (& more) Play, G-Spot & Female Ejaculation, Sex Toy Reviews, Videos

Sex Toy Review: California Exotic Novelties Lia Pleaser 1

[youtube]http://youtu.be/GdQfRFHIPYU[/youtube] Before I used the Lia ® Pleasers™ Pleaser 1, I was intrigued by the vibration options. It offers 10 different settings/pulses. It’s also waterproof and made from silicone,…

Couples (& more) Play, Guest Posts, Kink/BDSM, Personal Stories, Relationships & Non-Monogamy, Sex

Teaching an Old Dog New Tricks: 30 Days of Polyamory

Over the next month or so I’ll be focusing on subjects relating to non-monogamy. I’ll answer many questions for you— from defining lexicon (what’s Poly vs. Open Relationship vs. Mono/Poly, etc) to walking you through the how-to’s…

Personal Stories

Why is Social Media So Important for Porn Stars?

**“When I look at most models, actresses, and singers in mainstream, I find that I know very little about the person. Many A-listers don’t have an account on Twitter or Facebook, and if they do it’s usually maintained by an assistant or…

Beyond 50 Shades, Couples (& more) Play, Kink/BDSM, Relationships & Non-Monogamy, Sex, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

Trading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink Curious Women

Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance. CaféMom/The Stir’s “Women Who Want…

Beyond 50 Shades, Guest Posts, Kink/BDSM, Personal Stories, Sex, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

I Don’t Like You Much, Christian Grey

A few days ago, one of the local radio news stations interviewed us for their “50 shades of Grey” series. I was interested in talking about the book. One way or the other it’s an important book right now. It’s on paper, it’s got a cardboard cover, it’s written with an incessant and continual internal dialogue that makes you want to stick needles in your face, it’s on the bestseller list.

Beyond 50 Shades, Couples (& more) Play, Kink/BDSM, Sex, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

You want more S&M classes? Get ready for BDSM 201: Dungeons for Beginners!

Our BDSM 101: 50 Shades of Taboo class last night at Taboo Tabou was AWESOME! Thanks to everyone who came out! The turnout was wonderful and I’m already receiving all sorts of private notes from attendees thanking Ken and I for teaching…

Beyond 50 Shades, Kink/BDSM, Personal Stories, Sex, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

Stop Hating on 50 Shades of Grey!

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DbVNu-4uao8[/youtube] My fellow literary snobs, sex educators, kinksters & sex positive community members may be shocked to hear me say this: STOP HATING ON 50 SHADES OF GREY! Yep,…

Beyond 50 Shades, Guest Posts, Kink/BDSM, Sex

10 Things to Read After 50 Shades of Grey

Maybe you really enjoyed 50 Shades and you want to know what you could read next. Here are some options. All of these are written to subjectify the female player- to give her life and let her fantasy really guide the book. Even if she is the submissive- the object of affection and intrigue, use and abuse, she is the window through which the story is told.

Asexuality, Beyond 50 Shades, Kink/BDSM, Relationships & Non-Monogamy, Sex, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

BDSM Without Sex?

When we hear words like fetish, kink, BDSM or S&M we immediately think sex. BDSM is an acronym many in the mainstream consider synonymous with S&M. Technically it stands for bondage & discipline (BD), dominance & submission (DS) and sadism & masochism (SM). In other words-- whatever it is you like that’s kinky, whether on the giving or receiving end, is included in the all encompassing label of BDSM.

Contests & Giveaways, Couples (& more) Play, Kink/BDSM, Sex

50 Shades of Grey Gift Set Giveaway!

I’m giving away a 50 Shades of Grey gift package! Are you dying to read the book that has everyone talking? It seems everyone has an opinion about it— now you can judge for yourself! This gift package is valued at over $65 and…

Masturbation, Orgasms, Personal Stories, Sex, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

The Journey of Self Love – My Masturbation Story

May is International Masturbation Month! This article was written by Sunny Megatron for and originally appearing in Lidia-Anain's Sex Love Joy. During the entire month of May 2012, Sex Love Joy will feature a collection of masturbation…

Consent, Kink/BDSM, Sex, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

Detroit’s Local 4 News Filming of BDSM Club Irresponsible Journalism

I just learned Detroit's Local 4 News planted someone at a local BDSM Dungeon party and will broadcast images of the guests captured on a hidden camera on tonight's 11pm news. The angle of the story is something to the effect of "OMG! Are…

Couples (& more) Play, Sexual Health & Safety

Talk about Birds, Bees and Disease with your Grandparents!

Our parents and grandparents didn’t grow up learning about condoms in their high school and college health classes. After becoming single after loss of a spouse or divorce, many are hitting the dating pool for the first time in years. Contrary…

Events, Personal Stories

Vote for Weird Chicago Tours – Best of 2012 + Film Shoot Update

As many of you know, I am a tour guide for Weird Chicago Tours. I host every type of tour offered at Weird Chicago -- Serial Killer, Weird & Haunted, Devil & The White City, True Crime & Gangster, etc. On this site I am…

Hahaha!, Sex, Videos

Nothing Like a Soccer Mom DP’ed on National TV!

This Liquid Plumr Deep Impact TV ad is hilarious! I am also thankful to see the portrayal of a seemingly realistic woman who not only digs sex but isn’t afraid to get her freak on. Hurray for MFM threesomes with hot plumbers! Whew!…

Hahaha!, Kink/BDSM, Sex, Videos

Ellen’s 50 Shades of Grey + Bonus S&M Barbara Walters

As if we need another reason to love Ellen. Ellen Reads from 50 Shades of Grey: http://youtu.be/on3JCwnwHbU Is it wrong that I can't get the image of Ellen topping Barbara Walters out of my head? And that…

Anal Play, Hahaha!, Sex, Videos

Consensus: Grannies Hate Anal Sex!

This hilarious letter from a granny declaring to her college aged granddaughter “never do ANAL sex!” apparently wasn’t enough. Check out this latest video where 3 grandmothers watch the Kim Kardashian sex tape. They don’t dig the…

Beyond 50 Shades, Body Image, Kink/BDSM, Personal Stories, Relationships & Non-Monogamy, Sex, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist

Upon meeting a prospective partner in a coffee shop or at the corner bar, they often become “Coffee Shop Hottie” or “Corner Bar Dude” in casual conversation amongst friends. When I first met the love of my life, my best friend and I secretly referred to him as “The Sex Clown.”

Consent, Couples (& more) Play, Relationships & Non-Monogamy, Sex, Sexual Health & Safety, Sexual Identity & Empowerment

Navigating Consent & Setting Sexual Boundaries: Yes/No/Maybe List

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. It’s a topic I am very passionate about. I devoted a lot of time this month to speaking and teaching about sexual consent. In my Sexual Consent Workshops we learn about consent in the context…

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