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The BDSM Test is infamous. We post results on FetLife & use it as a roadmap, educational tool + kink negotiation starter. It’s even gone vanilla as the focus of social media challenges & pop magazine writeups. But is it all its cracked up to be? Many say it’s othering, stigmatizing & normalizes red-flags. Midori & therapist Joe Zarate-Sanderlin deconstruct this test question by question + explore its wider impact. Why don't we scrutinize it the same way vet other educational sources? Who wrote it, why, and what are they using the data they’re collecting about our kink for? Turns out, it’s a bit of a mystery…

Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when…

All relationships are susceptible to hurdles & conflict--resentment, attachment injuries, navigating mental health, unhealthy coping strategies, overcoming societal conditioning, trauma, and more. It’s hard enough between 2 people; in…

The legal definition of consent in BDSM is changing & all kinksters NEED to know about this! Currently, U.S. law interprets consensual kink activities as criminal acts making prosecuting sexual assault cases in BDSM difficult. How do you prove non-consensual sex occurred if kink isn’t considered sex in the eyes of the law, it’s assault? The NCSF established a legal definition of consent in kink: The New Model Penal Code on Sexual Assault: Affirmative Defense of Explicit Prior Permission for use of force and restraint with sexual contact developed with the American Law Institute. Susan Wright & BebeBlueEyes explain how this gives legal power to sexual assault survivors, how it’ll be adopted state-by-state, about the new consent model EPP/Explicit Prior Permission & why implementing it as community standard is key to changing case law, what you can do to help, how the NCSF can assist you with criminal sexual assault cases involving consensual kink, and more.

What does the Joe Rogan/Spotify controversy have to do with the freaky things you do in the bedroom? Surprisingly, A LOT! This situation uncovered bigger issues regarding corporate control of information & influence over censorship.…

On episode 180 of American Sex Podcast, Host & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron Is back for a second installment of free-style BDSM education. She gives helpful tips and busts myths that are commonly spread within the kink community. Topics…

Why are so many people into deep anal insertion? One theory is because it can stimulate the vagus nerve. Not only can this feel amazing, but it may also trigger a cascade of health benefits! Ruby Ryder of Pegging Paradise fame joins us to…

On episode 174 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Codi Vore and Queen Ava about sex worker mutual aid and the organization they helped co-found, SWAID Las Vegas. Some of what we cover: How mutual aid differs from traditional non-profits…

On episode 172 of American Sex Podcast, Host & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron free-styles BDSM education, gives helpful tips, and busts myths that are commonly spread within the kink community. Topics discussed: Benign masochism &…

Why are dark, disgusting fantasies that are in direct opposition to our moral beliefs some of our biggest turn-ons? How can what’s ‘so wrong’ be ‘so RIGHT’? Mollena Lee Williams-Haas tells us what’s behind this on episode 170 of…