Grooming in BDSM Relationships with Sunny Megatron - Ep 199

Adult grooming is often misunderstood — from what it looks like, to who is most vulnerable, what types of people groom, and why — most assume it can’t happen to them. The fact is, grooming comes in many forms and can happen in any type of relationship – including BDSM dynamics. And because kink often involves power imbalances, it can be especially difficult to recognize in this context.

Whether you’re new to kink or a seasoned veteran, episode 199 of American Sex will give you the tools to spot unhealthy power dynamics in BDSM and deconstruct preconceived notions of what manipulative abuse looks like, who can do it, and why. You’ll also learn:

The six stages of grooming as they apply to D/s dynamics
How to recognize coercive abuse in BDSM relationships
How pop culture kink stereotypes fuel grooming within BDSM
The end goal of the groomer’s behavior
How my breakable rules analysis can help you spot unhealthy kink & more

p.s. Don‘t forget to grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Virtual Summit 2/20-24 where I’ll be teaching my “No B.S. Approach to Consent & Safe Words.” http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit

Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron

Sunny Megatron is an award-winning Sexologist, BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, and media personality. She’s the host & executive producer of the Showtime original series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast, and was 2021’s XBIZ Sexpert of the Year. Currently, she’s the Editor-in-Chief of kink-focused Zipper Magazine.

Known for her one-of-a-kind, build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catchphrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous teaching style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find their power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”

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Episode 199 Helpful Links & Resources

Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/
Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?
Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron
Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/
The Dom/sub Virtual Summit 2/20-24 http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit
Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by Sunny Megatron https://zippermagazine.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-safewords/

What’s the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive? https://zippermagazine.com/tradwife-vs-domestic-service-sub/
BDSM Test American Sex Podcast episode https://sunnymegatron.com/the-bdsm-test/
193 – Safewords episode part 1 https://sunnymegatron.com/safewords-consent-kink-is-customizable/
194 – Safewords episode part 2 https://sunnymegatron.com/kink-nuance-podcast/
Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

How to Tell if Your BDSM Relationship is Abusive https://www.vice.com/en/article/panjbz/how-to-tell-if-your-bdsm-relationship-is-abusive
The 6 stages of grooming https://www.skillsplatform.org/blog/6-stages-of-grooming-adults-and-teens-spotting-the-red-flags/
Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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