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4 Must-Haves for Phenomenal First Time Pegging

First time peggingAnal play is still considered rather taboo in our society, especially for men. It can be viewed as too kinky, emasculating, or as a threat to a man’s heterosexual status. Nothing can be further from the truth– plenty of men enjoy anal play. The anus is packed with sensitive nerve endings that can enhance sexual pleasure and orgasm. Men have the added benefit of a prostate, often referred to as the “male g-spot,” which can be stimulated through the rectal wall and can ignite unimaginable pleasure.

Pegging is the term used to describe the act of a man being penetrated by a woman wearing a strap-on. Not only does this type of backdoor play engage the plentiful nerve endings around the anus, it directly stimulates the prostate. More straight men are into and open to pegging than one may think. In this Cosmo article on pegging, two men anonymously and candidly talk about their positive experiences with anal strap-on play.

Regardless of which end of the strap-on you stand, if this is something you are interested in trying, the first step is bringing it up to your partner. You just may find that you are both willing to experiment with pegging. If you are, how do you proceed? Very slowly. If you aren’t used to anal play you should start out small and work your way up. The following things will help you prepare for a pleasurable first time pegging experience:

  1. Lube: It is important to keep the anus and whatever is penetrating it well lubricated. When it comes to anal penetration the general rule of thumb is: if you think you’ve used enough, add a little more. Silicone lubricant is great for anal play because it has a tremendous amount of lasting power. Water based lube can be used also but may need to be reapplied more often. Since silicone toys occasionally react negatively with silicone lube so unless you’ve already spot tested your silicone, opt for water based lube to play it safe.

  2. Relaxation and a finger: It is essential he be fully relaxed for penetration. A calming body massage, deep breathing, or relaxing music can help with this. It’s best to start out with a simple gloved finger (medical gloves are great for butt play). Fingers are small and easily allow you to feel where you are going and to monitor how relaxed he is. Once he is comfortable with one finger you can work up to two, then three if you wish. You will likely have to work up to larger sizes slowly over multiple sessions. When it comes to butt play, slow and steady wins the race.

  3. Anal toys: Beginner anal toys like the Booty Call Booty Vibro Kit can be great for getting the anus accustomed to penetration. Using a kit like this allows him to get a feel for different textures, shapes, and even vibration. This type of set is a great precursor to a strap-on dildo and can help him decide what kind of strap-on toy he may like best.

  4. Small strap-on: For most people, a slender starter strap-on dildo with a slight curve at the tip designed to stimulate the prostate is ideal for first time pegging. Strapless strap-ons also provide stimulation for the wearer and can often be used in conjunction with a harness for those who feel they need more support.

Is pegging something you’d like to try?  Just like the men in the Cosmo pegging article, you or your partner may find it’s an act that not only brings you closer to your partner but unlocks orgasm potential you never knew possible.

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