Stella Harris Podcast Sexual CommunicationStella Harris is a healthy communication rockstar and just released a new best selling book on the subject. In this episode Stella teaches us: what to do when one partner isn’t putting in the effort, boundary & expectation setting in the early part of relationships, how communication differs for vanilla & BDSM situations, navigating consent without ruining the mood, sexual improv tips & communication exercises for improving your sex life & more! Sunny shows her appreciation for Bi Visibility Day and endures a lot of pounding while Ken is away. Catch Stella’s bonus story about a very unusual first date on Patreon:

Guest Bio 

Stella Harris is such a nerd about communication that she wrote a book about it – look for Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships this September from Cleis Press. As a Certified Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella teaches at venues and conferences across the country (and Canada!) most recently appearing at ConvergeCon in Vancouver BC, Dark Odyssey: Surrender in San Francisco, Kinky Kollege in Chicago, and Reed College in her adopted hometown of Portland, Oregon. In addition to her new book, Stella writes a sex column for the Willamette Week.

Widely quoted in the media, Stella has made guest appearances on numerous podcasts including Sex on the Brain, Strange Bedfellows, and Playboy Radio. Her articles have appeared in Cosmopolitan,, and, and her fiction is included in more than a dozen anthologies.

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