Abuse in Kink Relationships & Communities with Bekah Rose - Ep 147

On episode 147 we talk with Bekah Rose about abuse in the kink community and in kink relationships. How do we most effectively deal with habitual abusers in our spaces? Is it always possible to make room for people that abuse to change and heal? What are the most common types of abuse we see within the kink community? In intimate relationships why is it so hard to spot subtle abusive tactics like gaslighting and emotional manipulation? How can we better support others who are experiencing this? What’s the difference between a consent violation and consent failure? Abuse is present in every community and has the potential to perpetrated by anyone in any type of relationship. This is episode required listening no matter what community you belong to.

Bekah Rose Bio

Bekah Rose(she/her) is a social worker in Chicago. She is passionate about transformative justice and community care. She is finishing her master’s degree and is working towards her clinical license as a sex and relationship therapist. She has been in the kink scene for 8 years and openly polyamorous for the past 10 years. You can find her on TikTok or Instagram.

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Transformative Justice A Curriculum Guide https://transformharm.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/tjcurriculum_design_small-finalrev.pdf
Toward Transformative Justice A Liberatory Approach to Child Sexual Abuse and other forms of Intimate and Community Violence http://www.generationfive.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/G5_Toward_Transformative_Justice-Document.pdf
Handbook on Restorative Justice programmes https://www.unodc.org/pdf/criminal_justice/Handbook_on_Restorative_Justice_Programmes.pdf
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