Midori How to make negotiation sexyGreat sex and mind-blowing kink must include clear communication and thorough negotiation. Sometimes, however, the process can seem impersonal and not very sexy. In this episode, Midori teaches us surefire techniques for laying groundwork before a sexy scene that doesn’t feel like negotiation at all. She explains her signature engaged collaborative consent model, gives specific steps for flirtatious negotiation, and offers tips for cultivating “Queen of the Starfish” moments. She also busts myths about what aftercare should entail, explains the brain chemistry behind sub drop and top drop, introduces us to BYOA, and details how to get the aftercare you want whether you’re submissive or dominant. Yes, Doms need aftercare too! This is a must listen for everyone no matter where you are on the kinky spectrum. Sunny & Ken also prepare for their holiday hiatus and a life-changing adventure. 

Guest Bio

Founder of ForteFemme: Women’s Intensive, Midori leads workshops, lectures, and weekend intensives as well as educational and arts programs to enhance creative living, fulfillment, and collaborative leadership from the bedroom to the boardroom. Through her programs, thousands of attendees of all genders and orientations have tapped into greater joy, confidence, consent, & personal accountability in their lives.

Her decades of Sex Positive instruction started in the 90’s through HIV education and Smarter Sex outreach. Since then she’s authored many books and articles, including “The Wild Side of Sex” and “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” the first English language instruction book on Shibari.

Midori is also a passionate multidisciplinary artist She has presented at TEDx SoMa, curated a large event at the Asian Art Museum of San Francisco, and continues to exhibit her art internationally. She is currently available for private coaching as well as leading personalized, private tours of her home country, Japan.

To learn more about her, visit: http://www.FHP-Inc.com

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