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Sex, Kink & Trauma w/ Jamila M. Dawson August McLaughlin - Ep 173

Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT & August McLaughlin join us for episode 173 of American Sex Podcast to talk about sex, kink and trauma. The pair recently wrote a book on the subject called, With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. If you’re a human you likely have trauma and whether you realize it or not, it can affect your connection to pleasure. Some of what we cover in this conversation: What trauma is/isn’t, If “fuck” is a trauma response like fight/flight/freeze/fawn, Trauma & the mind/body connection, Why some people find BDSM therapeutic, The difference between subspace & dissociation, Being trauma-aware in sex-positive communities, Neurodivergence, trauma & sex. As heavy as the subject seems, per our usual, we approach the subject with lightheartedness and lots of laughs! Life is too short to be serious all the time 😉

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Kink Education Freestyle with Sunny Megatron - Ep 172

On episode 172 of American Sex Podcast, Host & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron free-styles BDSM education, gives helpful tips, and busts myths that are commonly spread within the kink community. Topics discussed: Benign masochism &…

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Pleasure Education w/ Stefanos & Shay - American Sex Podcast Ep 171

Want to be a sex or BDSM educator? Or become a better one? Maybe you’re a student wondering how to better vet the instructors you learn from? Stefanos and Shay join us for ep 171 of American Sex Podcast to talk about pleasure education. During…

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Taboo BDSM Play with Mollena Williams-Haas - American Sex Podcast Ep 170

Why are dark, disgusting fantasies that are in direct opposition to our moral beliefs some of our biggest turn-ons? How can what’s ‘so wrong’ be ‘so RIGHT’? Mollena Lee Williams-Haas tells us what’s behind this on episode 170 of…

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Femme Dominance with Jaki Griot - Ep 169

Jaki Griot gives us the real talk on femme dominants on ep 169 of American Sex Podcast. In the kink world, they’re often disrespected, devalued, and held to higher standards than their masculine counterparts. Femme doms of color, even more…

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More Than a Sex Party w/ Polly Superstar - Ep 168

Polly Superstar is a sex culture revolutionary and she’s also our guest on episode 168 of American Sex Podcast. Over the last 14 years her legendary event, Kinky Salon, has spread to 16 cities around the world. Some describe it as a sex party…

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Daddy Play with Luna Matatas - Ep 167 American Sex Podcast

Daddy play is hitting the mainstream and Luna Matatas joins us on episode 167 of American Sex Podcast to talk about the many flavors of this role-play. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to engage in age play to enjoy the daddy archetype. It’s not always a DDLG dynamic, although it can be. Luna explains why we find this kink so hot, the different types of daddy archetypes we can portray, why daddy play isn’t gender-dependent, the surging popularity of FemDaddies & gender non-conforming daddies, how it differs from mommy play, why not all daddies are dominant, the cultural and psychological origins of this kind of play, and more.

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OnlyFans & The Morality War with Kitty Stryker - Ep 166 American Sex Podcast

Last month, news of OnlyFans explicit content ban rocked the world. What was behind it? Were they sanitizing the platform to court new investors? Was their grand plan to exploit adult creators to grow the site only kick them to the curb once it gained mainstream appeal? Were payment processors pressuring them? And how were they able to reverse their decision so quickly? In episode 166 of American Sex Podcast, Kitty Stryker explains the complex and deep-rooted reasons for this unexpected series of events. It has ties to the censorship in media movement that goes back decades, religious groups with hidden agendas, shady anti-trafficking organizations, and more. She warns that even though Only Fans ban was suspended, there may be more to come that will affect every corner of the internet.

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Kink Informed Therapists & Care Professionals w/ Midori - Ep 165

Kink trailblazer Midori joins us for episode 165. Now at the helm of the first Kink Informed Professionals Certification of its kind, Midori recently partnered with the Sexual Health Alliance to bridge the gap between BDSM and mental health/care professions. Once pathologized, kink has recently become a serious area of professional interest and study. In this conversation, Midori tells us how myths from popular culture and those perpetrated by the BDSM community itself have contributed to bias in care professions. We pinpoint why the mental health field is beginning to see BDSM as a healthy outlet for creativity, resilience, and valid erotic expression. We also touch on the ways abuse hides within kink and how stigma around that affects our relationships with therapists, doctors, social workers, attorneys, and other care professionals we come into contact with.

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Electric Play w/ Cass Anderson & Emma Norman - Ep 164

Ep 164 of American Sex Podcast is SHOCKING! Sunny talks electric play with Emma & Cass from the Honeydew Me Podcast. If you think e-stim is all about pain, think again! Electrosex devices are incredibly versatile. With just a simple setting adjustment you can go from a hardcore BDSM scene to gentle, sensual, hands-free orgasms! In this conversation, we start with the basics of TENS units and violet wands and pace up the action step-by-step so you can zero in on what suits you. You’ll learn safety information, about body piercings & electric play, how-tos, accessories you can find around the house, party games, and more. There’s something in this episode for every type of player from vanilla to extreme.

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Lessons from a New Kinkster with Erik Gude & Catie Osborn - Ep 163

Ep 163 of American Sex podcast is jampacked with so many practical tips and insights for new & experienced kinksters alike! When Erik got into kink less than a year ago, he didn’t realize how profoundly it would change his life both inside and outside the bedroom. Joined by his partner & mentor Catie, Erik walks us through his transformative journey of self-discovery. We discuss strategies for negotiating your first scene when you don’t know how kink tools feel or what experiencing a scene is like. Erik tells us about his unexpected feeling of mourning and how to handle expectations that don’t match up with reality, how Erik & Catie dealt with the common phenomenon known as frenzy, navigating kink with ADHD, and how it can help align your body and mind. We also get into switching and the similarities and differences between subspace, domspace, and their respective drops. This is a must-listen for those curious about or into kink.

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Catholicism Kink w/ Arielle Aquinas & Danarama - Ep 162

Kinky religious play is the ultimate taboo. But why is it so popular? Go on to any porn site and you’ll find countless sexy latex-wearing nuns or roleplays that start with “forgive me, father, for I have sinned” and feature the naughty penance that follows. On ep 162 of American Sex Podcast Danarama and Arielle Aquinas explore why this kind of play is so popular, how you can engage in it without sacrilege, and why the trauma it brings up for some can be healing. Dan & Arielle give us scene ideas too including how we can pervert the sacraments plus real-life and specialty items we can use in play. Whether you’re a non-believer, a recovering catholic, or curious about exploring your faith through sexuality without engaging in blasphemy-- there’s lots in this conversation you’re going to love!

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Sex-Positive Community Post-COVID w/Justine Cross - Ep 161

On Ep 161 of American Sex Podcast, Justine Cross helps us navigate our emotions around getting back to dating, traveling, and attending sex parties in a post(ish)-COVID world. Although many of us are vaccinated and the CDC has relaxed social distancing guidelines, we’re having unexpected mixed feelings about integrating back into our real-life sex-positive communities. Introverts that thrived online are anxious about their newfound virtual communities disappearing. Visually stunning live online performance has become its own art form that we just can’t duplicate in a real-life setting. Which in-person events do we go to? When? How do we throw our own vaccinated-only gatherings? Justine gives us the pep talk we all need plus lays out practical tips for event planning & navigating post-quarantine uncertainty.

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Puppy Play with Amp Somers - Ep 160

You’re invited to our puppy pile! On ep 160 of American Sex Podcast, Amp Somers from Watts the Safeword joins us to talk puppy play. This episode is your ultimate pup resource! Find out exactly why so many people enjoy this role-play plus learn what kind of gear you need, how to join community & who’s welcome, how consent works when your words are barks, dynamics between pup and handler, switching as a puppy, similarities in role-playing other animals and primal kink, public play and when it crosses the line, various pup roles, how solo & non-community puppy play works, and more. We even talk about a recent puppy play scientific research study. This episode is so jam-packed with helpful info you won’t want to PAWS it! We leave no bone unturned! *groan*

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Leveling Up The Strap with Glenise Kinard-Moore - Ep 159

Have an idea for a new sex toy design but no clue how to actually produce it? Let this conversation with Glenise Kinard-Moore be your inspiration! A couple of years ago Glenise was an average person with an off-the-cuff idea and today she’s the founder of the lifestyle tech startup, SkiiMoo. Her flagship product, VDOM, isn’t only a pleasure tool, it's also a groundbreaking gender-affirming prosthetic made for the LGBTQ+ community. Glenise walks us through the process of starting with zero background in the pleasure business and what she did every step of the way. She also talks about disrupting the status quo as a queer Black woman entering an industry that isn’t always as inclusive as it appears.

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Manipulation with Kitty Stryker - Ep 158 American Sex Podcast

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The History of Syphilis with Danarama - Ep 157

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Keeping Secrets with Kate Loree - Ep 156

Did you know the average person has 13 secrets? On episode 156 of American Sex Podcast, Therapist Kate Loree joins us to examine the role secrets play in our lives. Find out: When are secrets good? When are they bad? How can we tell the difference?…

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Geek Therapy with Nicki Line - Ep 155 American Sex Podcast

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Fighting Intolerance Online Rosalynne Montoya - Ep 154 American Sex Podcast

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Non-Monogamy & Therapy w/Dr. Liz Powell & Kevin Patterson - Ep 153

On ep 153 of American Sex Podcast, Kevin Patterson & Dr. Liz Powell talk about the complexities of both finding a therapist knowledgeable about non-normative lifestyles/identities and becoming a therapist who is. Learn why non-monogamous…

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BJ Tips & Tricks with Carly S - Ep 152 American Sex Podcast

Episode 152 of American Sex Podcast is jampacked with tips for fantastic fellatio! In our conversation with Carly S we start with the psychology of BJs-- does viewing it as a dominant or submissive act affect our enjoyment and technique? Also…

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The Politics of Sex Censorship - Ep 151 American Sex Podcast

If you think the latest round of internet censorship doesn’t affect you, think again. Social media TOS changes, Visa/MasterCard halting services on Pornhub, and Section 230 being wrapped up in our COVID relief bills affect not only sex censorship…

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Rope Bondage with Midori - Ep 150 American Sex Podcast

Rope bondage can be visually stunning. But many of us leave erotic human macrame to the experts because the prospect of doing it ourselves is so intimidating. Do we need specialty rope, impeccable technique, and the confidence to go with it all? No according to Midori! On Ep 150 of American Sex Podcast Midori guides us through rope bondage for beginners with items we all have at home. Learn about safety, get inspiration for scene ideas, and how to have fun with long-distance bondage play. Midori also discusses the cultural origins of Shibari. Is it an honorable ancient Japanese practice like many of the rope enthusiasts claim? Or is there some cultural misappropriation at play? The answer may surprise you.

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Butt Play with Dr. Carlton - Ep 149 American Sex Podcast

Butt play is for everyone. It doesn’t have a gender or orientation. So many folks are curious but don’t know where to get safe information. Who better to ask than a gay GI doctor who not only knows the medical side of things but is no stranger to butt stuff himself?! On ep 149 of American Sex Podcast, Dr. Carlton tells us everything we need to know about the back door. We discuss enemas, considerations for hemorrhoids and fissures, how to stretch safely, how much is too much, prostate stimulation, anal orgasms for people with vulvas, lubes, fisting, must-know tips for tops and bottoms, and more. Also learn why it’s important to tell your doctor about the kind of sex you have and what to do if they shame you.

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