Why is Social Media So Important for Porn Stars?

**“When I look at most models, actresses, and singers in mainstream, I find that I know very little about the person. Many A-listers don’t have an account on Twitter or Facebook, and if they do it’s usually maintained by an assistant or…
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Trading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink Curious Women

Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance.  CaféMom/The Stir’s “Women Who Want…
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I Don’t Like You Much, Christian Grey

A few days ago, one of the local radio news stations interviewed us for their “50 shades of Grey” series. I was interested in talking about the book. One way or the other it’s an important book right now. It’s on paper, it’s got a cardboard cover, it’s written with an incessant and continual internal dialogue that makes you want to stick needles in your face, it’s on the bestseller list.
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You want more S&M classes? Get ready for BDSM 201: Dungeons for Beginners!

Our BDSM 101: 50 Shades of Taboo class last night at Taboo Tabou was AWESOME!  Thanks to everyone who came out! The turnout was wonderful and I’m already receiving all sorts of private notes from attendees thanking Ken and I for teaching…
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Stop Hating on 50 Shades of Grey!

  My fellow literary snobs, sex educators, kinksters & sex positive community members may be shocked to hear me say this: STOP HATING ON 50 SHADES OF GREY! Yep, you read that correctly.  I’m defending 50 Shades of Grey. Whether…
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BDSM Without Sex?

When we hear words like fetish, kink, BDSM or S&M we immediately think sex. BDSM is an acronym many in the mainstream consider synonymous with S&M. Technically it stands for bondage & discipline (BD), dominance & submission (DS) and sadism & masochism (SM). In other words-- whatever it is you like that’s kinky, whether on the giving or receiving end, is included in the all encompassing label of BDSM.
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50 Shades of Grey Gift Set Giveaway!

I’m giving away a 50 Shades of Grey gift package! Are you dying to read the book that has everyone talking?  It seems everyone has an opinion about it— now you can judge for yourself! This gift package is valued at over $65 and…
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The Journey of Self Love - My Masturbation Story

May is International Masturbation Month!  This article was written by Sunny Megatron for and originally appearing in Lidia-Anain's Sex Love Joy.  During the entire month of May 2012, Sex Love Joy will feature a collection of masturbation…
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Talk about Birds, Bees and Disease with your Grandparents!

Our parents and grandparents didn’t grow up learning about condoms in their high school and college health classes.  After becoming single after loss of a spouse or divorce, many are hitting the dating pool for the first time in years.  Contrary…
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Vote for Weird Chicago Tours - Best of 2012 + Film Shoot Update

As many of you know, I am a tour guide for Weird Chicago Tours.  I host every type of tour offered at Weird Chicago -- Serial Killer, Weird & Haunted, Devil & The White City, True Crime & Gangster, etc.   On this site I am…
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Consensus: Grannies Hate Anal Sex!

This hilarious letter from a granny declaring to her college aged granddaughter “never do ANAL sex!” apparently wasn’t enough. Check out this latest video where 3 grandmothers watch the Kim Kardashian sex tape.  They don’t dig the…
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Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist

Upon meeting a prospective partner in a coffee shop or at the corner bar, they often become “Coffee Shop Hottie” or “Corner Bar Dude” in casual conversation amongst friends. When I first met the love of my life, my best friend and I secretly referred to him as “The Sex Clown.”
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Navigating Consent & Setting Sexual Boundaries: Yes/No/Maybe List

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  It’s a topic I am very passionate about. I devoted a lot of time this month to speaking and teaching about sexual consent.  In my Sexual Consent Workshops we learn about consent in the context…
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How to Give Prostate Massage: Instructional Videos

Below are a few instructional videos on prostate massage we found helpful. In the first, Jennah Adams shows you how to milk the prostate with a gloved finger. In the second Brianna Beach demos with an Aneros Prostate Massager. The bottom video is the very first video I ever watched about prostate massage. I really like this last video because it shows the actual massage in more detail. Also, they are the cutest couple ever!
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Choosing Your First Sex Toy

  http://youtu.be/zjBlgBVDTk4   There are a few things you may want to ask yourself before you buy your very first sex toy. For starters, you need to determine if you prefer vaginal penetration or clitoral stimulation. Being…
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G-spot Stimulation Instructional Video

This is a wonderful video on how to stimulate the g-spot I have been referring people to for years. You can find clips of the video on various sites but this link has the full 30 plus minute instructional video. Warning, although this is an instructional video, the clip is housed on a porn site and is graphic in nature! It is certainly NOT suitable for work!
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Hitachi Magic Wand vs. Wahl Massager + Vibrator Giveaway!

  Watch my video to find out which massager I like better and why.  And don’t forget to enter to win a Wahl Electric Massager of your very own!  Use the widget down below to enter!  You can even submit multiple entries on a…
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Put it Between My Breasts: My Mother's Day Story

When I was about 7 years old I accidentally heard my mother having sex. I stayed quiet as not to be discovered but had to keep listening out of sheer curiosity. At one point I heard her say in a whispery, trying-too-hard, bedroom voice “put it . . . between my . . . breaasssttts!”
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Stand Up - To Homophobic Bullying

  This PSA from Stand up! is of the best anti-bullying videos I've seen.  It made me cry, damn it! Really, everyone NEEDS to see this.   Show your friends, show your kids.  We need this happening in every school.  …
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My Penis and Everyone Else's

I love Lawrence Barraclough and I don’t care if he has a teeny weenie peener.  Besides, size doesn’t matter.  Well, yes it does.  Well . . . no, it doesn’t really.  Okay, maybe a little bit.  No?  What’s the right answer!? This…

Direct Assistance for People in Sendai, Japan

I’m breaking from my usual format to ask for your help. By now you’ve all heard about the horrors the people Japan are facing in the wake of the recent earthquakes, tsunami and nuclear scare.  Thousands have been left homeless and…
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HPV Panic Commencing in 3. . .2. . .1

Most folks I know in my age group or younger are adamant about safe sex.  We pride ourselves on the precautions we take for sexual safety. Those of us 40 and under grew up during the dawning of HIV/AIDS.  We know how important condoms…
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All I Know About the G-Spot I Learned From My Fucksaw

It seems fitting my first sexy product review be on The Stockroom’s Fuck Saw.  Little did I know the awesome Christmas gift Ken bought me would become THE fucksaw heard around the world. Back before my fucksaw was thrust into the spotlight…
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Northwestern Fucksaw: Has The New Sexual Revolution Just Begun?

I continue to be bombarded with countless untruths about what occurred during our lecture on February 21st, 2011 at Northwestern University.  It has turned into a global game of telephone.  The story has become so distorted and plucked…
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Fucksaw at Northwestern University: The REAL Story

I was one of the four guest lecturers at Northwestern University-- Ken Melvoin-Berg, Faith Kroll, Jim Marcus and myself.  In fact, that infamous fucksaw belongs to me.  I have been too crazy with media interviews, real life duties and…

Former Pumpkins Bassist, D'arcy Wretzky, Jailed

TMZ reported today former Smashing Pumpkins bassist, D'arcy Wretzky, was arrested in Michigan. Take a good look at the mug-shot. I know what you’re thinking: “OMG! Darcy, honey! What happened!? Are those little meth sores on…

HyperAlerts: Managing Facebook pages just got easier

I run a few Facebook fan pages. I have always found it incredibly frustrating as the administrator of a page I can’t get notifications of comments and new posts as I do on my personal page. A couple of weeks ago I found HyperAlerts, a…