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Learning from Kink: Polyamory and Swinging - My Visit with The Kinky Diva

This is part two of What Kink Can Teach Us. The "alternative" community we will be focusing on this week is polyamory and swingers. I must admit. I am completely monogamous and look for/require [...]
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Why I Don’t Try To Prevent HIV (and don’t think you should either)

This was written by Wintersong and previously appeared on BarkingShaman.com.  It specifically applies to safety issues around play that involves blood product, such as play-piercing and cutting play. Although this writing specifically applies…
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Why You Should Invest in Luxury Sex Toys

When I first started buying sex toys, I would usually go the cheap route and get whatever looked the most tempting for under $30. I was in college, so you couldn't blame me, but of course, these toys didn't last long. They'd break in half…
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The Vanilla vs. Kink Crossover

When it comes to vanillas and kinksters there’s a real “us” and “them” attitude. It’s like the Sharks and the Jets (Yes, I’m showing my age . . . and my love for musicals. Quiet, or I’ll dance fight your ass.). If you’re one you can’t be the other. You should never let it be known you occasionally associate with the other side, right? Look how badly that turned out for Tony and Maria. It’s also assumed if you’re on one side you think the other is less than worthy. Breaking it down to basic stereotypes, vanillas think kinksters are scary and weird. Kinksters think vanillas are unadventurous and boring.
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The Low-Down on Ben Wa Balls + Eclipse Kegel Exerciser Review

Ben Wa balls, also known as Kegel exercisers, are all the rage.  We’ve known for over 1,500 years using them leads to improved vaginal health, better sex and stronger orgasms.  You’d think that would be enough to sell anyone.  But it…
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Jimmyjane Form 2 Review: I'm in Love!

Very rarely do I fall in love with a vibrator.  I’m picky, tough to arouse and since I’ve sampled some of the best toys out there, I have very high standards.  The Jimmyjane Form 2 is one of my favorite vibrators of all time (the…
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Ken & Sunny Milk a Prostate!

  In the video above Ken and I discuss some of the techniques from these prostate milking instructional videos we tried.  They were a great success!  We encountered some things we didn’t expect (most of them good!) and prostate…
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Teaching an Old Dog New Tricks: 30 Days of Polyamory

Over the next month or so I’ll be focusing on subjects relating to non-monogamy.  I’ll answer many questions for you— from defining lexicon (what’s Poly vs. Open Relationship vs. Mono/Poly, etc) to walking you through the how-to’s…
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Trading Power for Pleasure? Popular Blogs Giving Horrible Advice to Kink Curious Women

Everyone’s jumping on the BSDM/50 Shades bandwagon. Every other internet news source claims to have the secret to creating the perfect 50 Shades experience but few provide accuracy or substance.  CaféMom/The Stir’s “Women Who Want…
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I Don’t Like You Much, Christian Grey

A few days ago, one of the local radio news stations interviewed us for their “50 shades of Grey” series. I was interested in talking about the book. One way or the other it’s an important book right now. It’s on paper, it’s got a cardboard cover, it’s written with an incessant and continual internal dialogue that makes you want to stick needles in your face, it’s on the bestseller list.
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You want more S&M classes? Get ready for BDSM 201: Dungeons for Beginners!

Our BDSM 101: 50 Shades of Taboo class last night at Taboo Tabou was AWESOME!  Thanks to everyone who came out! The turnout was wonderful and I’m already receiving all sorts of private notes from attendees thanking Ken and I for teaching…
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Stop Hating on 50 Shades of Grey!

  My fellow literary snobs, sex educators, kinksters & sex positive community members may be shocked to hear me say this: STOP HATING ON 50 SHADES OF GREY! Yep, you read that correctly.  I’m defending 50 Shades of Grey. Whether…
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10 Things to Read After 50 Shades of Grey

Maybe you really enjoyed 50 Shades and you want to know what you could read next. Here are some options. All of these are written to subjectify the female player- to give her life and let her fantasy really guide the book. Even if she is the submissive- the object of affection and intrigue, use and abuse, she is the window through which the story is told.
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BDSM Without Sex?

When we hear words like fetish, kink, BDSM or S&M we immediately think sex. BDSM is an acronym many in the mainstream consider synonymous with S&M. Technically it stands for bondage & discipline (BD), dominance & submission (DS) and sadism & masochism (SM). In other words-- whatever it is you like that’s kinky, whether on the giving or receiving end, is included in the all encompassing label of BDSM.
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50 Shades of Grey Gift Set Giveaway!

I’m giving away a 50 Shades of Grey gift package! Are you dying to read the book that has everyone talking?  It seems everyone has an opinion about it— now you can judge for yourself! This gift package is valued at over $65 and…
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The Journey of Self Love - My Masturbation Story

May is International Masturbation Month!  This article was written by Sunny Megatron for and originally appearing in Lidia-Anain's Sex Love Joy.  During the entire month of May 2012, Sex Love Joy will feature a collection of masturbation…
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Detroit’s Local 4 News Filming of BDSM Club Irresponsible Journalism

I just learned Detroit's Local 4 News planted someone at a local BDSM Dungeon party and will broadcast images of the guests captured on a hidden camera on tonight's 11pm news.  The angle of the story is something to the effect of "OMG! Are…
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Nothing Like a Soccer Mom DP'ed on National TV!

  This Liquid Plumr Deep Impact TV ad is hilarious!  I am also thankful to see the portrayal of a seemingly realistic woman who not only digs sex but isn’t afraid to get her freak on.  Hurray for MFM threesomes with hot plumbers! Whew!…
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Ellen's 50 Shades of Grey + Bonus S&M Barbara Walters

  As if we need another reason to love Ellen.  Ellen Reads from 50 Shades of Grey: http://youtu.be/on3JCwnwHbU     Is it wrong that I can't get the image of Ellen topping Barbara Walters out of my head? And that…
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Consensus: Grannies Hate Anal Sex!

This hilarious letter from a granny declaring to her college aged granddaughter “never do ANAL sex!” apparently wasn’t enough. Check out this latest video where 3 grandmothers watch the Kim Kardashian sex tape.  They don’t dig the…
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Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist

Upon meeting a prospective partner in a coffee shop or at the corner bar, they often become “Coffee Shop Hottie” or “Corner Bar Dude” in casual conversation amongst friends. When I first met the love of my life, my best friend and I secretly referred to him as “The Sex Clown.”
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Navigating Consent & Setting Sexual Boundaries: Yes/No/Maybe List

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  It’s a topic I am very passionate about. I devoted a lot of time this month to speaking and teaching about sexual consent.  In my Sexual Consent Workshops we learn about consent in the context…
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How to Give Prostate Massage: Instructional Videos

Below are a few instructional videos on prostate massage we found helpful. In the first, Jennah Adams shows you how to milk the prostate with a gloved finger. In the second Brianna Beach demos with an Aneros Prostate Massager. The bottom video is the very first video I ever watched about prostate massage. I really like this last video because it shows the actual massage in more detail. Also, they are the cutest couple ever!
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Choosing Your First Sex Toy

  http://youtu.be/zjBlgBVDTk4   There are a few things you may want to ask yourself before you buy your very first sex toy. For starters, you need to determine if you prefer vaginal penetration or clitoral stimulation. Being…
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G-spot Stimulation Instructional Video

This is a wonderful video on how to stimulate the g-spot I have been referring people to for years. You can find clips of the video on various sites but this link has the full 30 plus minute instructional video. Warning, although this is an instructional video, the clip is housed on a porn site and is graphic in nature! It is certainly NOT suitable for work!
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Hitachi Magic Wand vs. Wahl Massager + Vibrator Giveaway!

  Watch my video to find out which massager I like better and why.  And don’t forget to enter to win a Wahl Electric Massager of your very own!  Use the widget down below to enter!  You can even submit multiple entries on a…
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We're Teaching Sex Ed Classes at Taboo Tabou!

I’m happy to announce two of Chicago’s most informative and notorious sex educators are teaching a monthly adult sex-ed series at Taboo Tabou in Chicago!  Of course, that’s me and partner, Ken Melvoin-Berg!   ZAP! Electric Play is…
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My Perfect Vagina is 8 Miles Wide

    I was recently asked to articulate my opinion on cosmetic vaginal surgery, mainly labiaplasty. I promptly re-watched the film linked above, The Perfect Vagina by Heather Leach and Lisa Rogers.  I originally saw the…
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We're Teaching an Electrosex Class in LA!

I’m making my way to L.A.once again to help out partner, Ken Melvoin-Berg, teach ZAP! Electric Toy Play on Saturday, February 18th, 2012 at Stockroom University! Ken and I are both electricity nuts! From violet wands, to neon wands,…
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Put it Between My Breasts: My Mother's Day Story

When I was about 7 years old I accidentally heard my mother having sex. I stayed quiet as not to be discovered but had to keep listening out of sheer curiosity. At one point I heard her say in a whispery, trying-too-hard, bedroom voice “put it . . . between my . . . breaasssttts!”
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Off to Play in Sunny LA!

  Exciting news!  Ken Melvoin-Berg and I have a jam packed weekend head of us.  We’re going to sunny L.A.!  What are we going to be doing there, you ask?  Lots of sexy stuff! On Saturday April 9th , Ken and I are teaching a…
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Stand Up - To Homophobic Bullying

  This PSA from Stand up! is of the best anti-bullying videos I've seen.  It made me cry, damn it! Really, everyone NEEDS to see this.   Show your friends, show your kids.  We need this happening in every school.  …
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My Penis and Everyone Else's

I love Lawrence Barraclough and I don’t care if he has a teeny weenie peener.  Besides, size doesn’t matter.  Well, yes it does.  Well . . . no, it doesn’t really.  Okay, maybe a little bit.  No?  What’s the right answer!? This…
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This one time, at Chess Club . . . I put a Bishop in my #@$$&!

A vibrating chess set?  Check Mate! This is awesome. This is just another reason I need to be rich (did you see the $10k price tag?!).  Offered exclusively by high end naughty shop, Kiki de Montparnasse, each piece is made of medical grade…
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HPV Panic Commencing in 3. . .2. . .1

Most folks I know in my age group or younger are adamant about safe sex.  We pride ourselves on the precautions we take for sexual safety. Those of us 40 and under grew up during the dawning of HIV/AIDS.  We know how important condoms…
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All I Know About the G-Spot I Learned From My Fucksaw

It seems fitting my first sexy product review be on The Stockroom’s Fuck Saw.  Little did I know the awesome Christmas gift Ken bought me would become THE fucksaw heard around the world. Back before my fucksaw was thrust into the spotlight…
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Northwestern Fucksaw: Has The New Sexual Revolution Just Begun?

I continue to be bombarded with countless untruths about what occurred during our lecture on February 21st, 2011 at Northwestern University.  It has turned into a global game of telephone.  The story has become so distorted and plucked…

Jim Marcus Responds to Sun-Times re: Northwestern Fucksawgate

Neil Steinberg, of the Chicago Sun-Times published an editorial regarding Northwestern University Fucksawgate last night.  Jim Marcus e-mailed the response below to Neil but is unsure if it will be published in its entirety.  There’s a…
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Fucksaw at Northwestern University: The REAL Story

I was one of the four guest lecturers at Northwestern University-- Ken Melvoin-Berg, Faith Kroll, Jim Marcus and myself.  In fact, that infamous fucksaw belongs to me.  I have been too crazy with media interviews, real life duties and…
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Better Handjobs With a Petting Ring?

  I think I need a petting ring. Am I being stupid? I was first exposed to petting rings exactly 24 hours ago. Upon first laying my eyes on one, I thought: 1. That’s dumb. 2. How do you text, drive or wipe yourself with…
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I Want an Electric Blue, Rainbow Vagina

So, did they mean this to be funny? Or are they expecting me to put on my Birkenstocks, stop shaving my armpits and tell everyone how beautiful and empowering this is? Because as much as I love to celebrate the beauty of female genitalia,…

The Essential Cthulhu Roundup

I happen to be in love with a lover of all things Cthulhu.  This past Christmas I scoured the ends of the earth and the deep depths of the sea for the best Cthulhu merchandise I could get my hands on.  Here are some of the treasures I found: Cthulhu…

Sex, Love and Food are Closely Tied

According to an article published this afternoon on Psychology Today, there is a very close relationship between love, sex and food. A few things crossed my mind while reading this article: A. Ah-ha! This is why my partner and I have…
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Best. It Gets Better Video. Ever.

Comedian and improv performer Rebecca Drysdale hit a home run with her video for Dan Savage’s It Gets Better Project. Best. ‘It Gets Better’ video. Ever. If you are a parent to a teen, you should have your child watch this. …

o.b. Tampons on the Black Market

According to CNNMoney.com, you can currently fetch upward of $40 a box on the black market for o.b. tampons.  Last fall o.b. mysteriously vanished from store shelves only to pop up again this January in very limited quantities.  Ladies,…