September 12th, 2012 is Global Female Condom Day. I am so thankful I discovered the many joys of female condoms so, of course, I’m here to spread the word! Contrary to popular belief, female condoms can be used by people of any gender in man/woman, woman/woman or man/man sexual encounters.
To learn more, watch my Youtube video below to find out how to use a female condom. Next, read my top 5 reasons why female condoms are the bomb. Ready? Go!
1. Feeling: Female condoms feel AMAZING! As someone with a vagina I can personally say using female condoms feels a bit more like sex without a condom. The male lovers I have used them with say they feel especially out of this world to a penis. Many men say it’s close to the sensation of bare-backing. Female condoms feel so natural because they warm up to the temperature of the wearers body. As an added bonus, when used for man/woman sex, the clitoris can be stimulated by the condoms outer ring and the tip of the penis stimulated by the inner ring.
I hate that in this day and age there are still people out there that refuse to use male condoms. They say condoms are too restrictive, they hurt, condoms kill all sensation, etc. etc. Cough *bullshit* cough. My answer to that would be “Too bad. If you want to fuck me you HAVE TO wear a condom. Period.” I also know, however, my reality isn’t everyone else’s.
If your lover has a problem with male condoms, female condoms might be the perfect solution. Remember, your sexual safety should never be compromised. People worth sleeping with are the ones who respect your wishes and your body.
2. Latex allergy: It is estimated nearly 10% of the population has some sort of sensitivity to latex. In some individuals the reaction is so severe it can be life threatening. Female condoms are a perfect alternative to latex condoms because they are made from nitrile. If you routinely suffer from genital irritation or discomfort after sex due to latex sensitivity, try using a female condom instead.
3. Anal Sex/Oil based lube use: Although it hasn’t yet been endorsed by the CDC, many state health agencies and sex ed groups are advocating the use of female condoms for anal sex. The name “female condom” can be deceiving because they can be used by receivers of any gender vaginally or anally (or as Megan Andelloux calls them: “engulfers.” That’s so much more active and empowering than “receivers”— love her!) . Female condoms aren’t just for women.
Why would someone want to use a female condom in their ass? For the same reasons I have listed for vaginal use— they are great for latex sensitive individuals, wonderful for those who don’t like male condoms, they cover more surface area and they give the receiver more control over STI and pregnancy prevention.
There is one more great reason to use female condoms for anal sex– they are safe to use with oil based lubes. Many people who engage in anal play use lubricants specially made for this purpose. A large number of the “butter” style anal lubes are oil based which is a big no-no with latex. Oil based lubricants break down latex and decrease their effectiveness. If you are using an oil based lube always use non-latex gloves, condoms and dental dams.
To insert a female condom for anal sex, remove the smaller inside ring from the condom and discard it. Proceed to push it in from the inside of the condom like you would vaginally.
4. Safety: When used properly female condoms have a similar effectiveness rate as their male counterparts.
Male condoms do not cover the entire genital area. The outside of the vulva, outside of the anus and lower portion of the penis and testicles remain exposed during vaginal and/or anal intercourse. STI’s can be transmitted when these areas come into contact. Because female condoms cover the outer portion of the receiver’s genitals, they minimize skin to skin contact.
Female condoms also stay in place after a man loses his erection. This is great if your lover has erectile dysfunction issues or if you just want to curl up and cuddle afterward.
5. Female Condoms put the control back in your hands: Female condoms are the only receiver initiated method available that provides both pregnancy and STI prevention. That is huge!
Not only do female condoms allow women and/or receivers complete control over their own reproductive and sexual health choices, they can be worn up to 8 hours before intercourse.
It is unfortunate so many of us don’t have access to or proper knowledge of this revolutionary safer sex tool. Now that you know a bit more, do your part to spread the word. Tell your friends, ask your local sex shops to carry female condoms and visit The National Female Condom Coalition Website for other ways you can inform and educate others. Also, share this blog post and my female condom video below on social media sites and by reposting on your own blog.
September 12th, 2012 is Global Female Condom Day. Let’s start a revolution!
p.s. You may have heard female condoms crinkle like a plastic bag during sex. Not true! The first generation female condom, the FC1, was made from polyurethane and did make a dreadful crinkling noise. Female condoms available today, however, are different. FC2 condoms were approved by the FDA in 2009. These second generation female condoms are made from nitrile and don’t make noises during intercourse. They are also much more comfortable. If it’s been a few years since you’ve tried a female condom– try them again! You’ll find they are much improved over what they used to be.
If you’d like to try Female Condoms to see if they are right for you, here is a list of all the places in Chicago you can get them for FREE. Yes, free! :)