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4 Steps for Choosing Your First Vibrator

When it comes to self-pleasuring, the toys and sex gear you use can make or break your experience. For people with vulvas, the right vibrator can help you achieve different types of orgasms and teach you how to be comfortable with the way your body responds to stimulation. If you’re ready to buy your first vibrator, considering the following will help you find a toy that’s the perfect fit for your budget, desires, and the way you orgasm.

1. Choose a Style

Vibrator style is the very first thing you should decide. As you browse available models, think about how you masturbate and whether you focus more on the clitoris, on insertion, or if you like both simultaneously. Remember, there is no one right way to masturbate and we all prefer different things. But if you’re new to toys and/or masturbation there’s a good chance you’ve taken to clitoral stimulation. This is the way the majority of people with vulvas first learn to orgasm. If this is the case, a smaller palm size or bullet vibrator might be a great first choice.

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A screen grab from my TV show, Sex with Sunny Megatron on Showtime. Here I am with a bullet vibrator, a common and inexpensive choice for first-time sex toy users.

Some vibrators are built to deliver a variety of sensations at once. These are commonly called dual stimulation or rabbit vibrators. Dual stimulators can be perfect for those new to toys because of their versatility. Quite a few models can be used only externally, only internally, or both at the same time depending on the way they are positioned. Buying a versatile toy like this can help you figure out what type stimulation you prefer.

Don’t forget speed and vibration when you’re looking at styles. For first vibrators, it’s a good idea to select one that offers a number of speeds and vibration patterns so you can figure out what suits you best. 

Also, all vibrations are not the same. Some feel deep and rumbly while others are more shallow and buzzy. Even if you intend to buy online, if you find yourself near a sex shop, pop in. Ask the clerks to show you the difference between toys with rumbly vibrations versus buzzy vibrations. Odds are you won’t know which you prefer sexually just by feeling them on your hand but at least you’ll be able to identify the differences in sensation. This way, if you buy your first toy and it’s not quite doing it for you, you’ll know what type of vibration to try next.  

2. Consider Your Budget

Understanding what a good vibrator might cost can help you avoid sticker shock when you shop online or at your local adult novelty shop. Depending on the speed, size, and function, a vibrator can cost anywhere from $20-$200. Hands-free and rechargeable models tend to be more expensive, but they are also more convenient.

One thing to remember is although expensive luxury vibrators often knock people’s socks off, it’s not a guarantee. On the flipside, some $30 sex toys are worth their weight in gold. In other words, you don’t always get what you pay for when it comes to sex toys. Expensive doesn’t necessarily mean better.  

When buying inexpensive sex toys make sure you are getting one that’s made from a safe, non-toxic materials. You’re best to look for something that’s non-porous, the most common material of this type being silicone. Over the years the cost of silicone toys has really come down. It’s no longer necessary to spend upwards of $100 for a good silicone toy. There are some excellent body-safe, silicone vibrators out there in the $20-40 range.

3. Remember the Accessories

Once you settle on the type of vibrator you want, consider the accessories you need. You may opt for a toy cleaner so you can give your vibrator a good wipe down before tossing it in your night table drawer. Personal lubricant is also important. It’s commonly said that a little lube makes all types of sex feel better. There’s a lot to choose from when it comes to a personal lubricant too. Consider the different types like silicone, water based, or hybrid when you browse best sex lube options online.

4. Age May Be a Factor

People of all ages and sexual experience buy vibrators. Considering both of these factors may help you choose one more wisely. If you are younger and have limited sexual experience, you may want to start out with something like an inexpensive bullet until you get used to the sensations they provide.

If you are older, better versed in sex accessories, and want to be more adventurous in the bedroom you may want something with a bit more girth and/or power. Those that are older can even help ease the symptoms of menopause with a vibrator.

Choosing a vibrator, especially a first one, can be difficult. How can you make it easier? Do a little research and planning. Check out what’s available in your price range. See what sex educators and sex toy reviewers are recommending. Go to a sex shop and hold the floor models in your hand to see what different vibrations feel like. When you masturbate at home, listen to your body and tune in to what it most responds to. Then see if you can find a similar sensation in a toy. You may not hit it out of the park with your first vibrator purchase, many don’t. But if you base your selection on these factors, you are much more likely to find a perfect match.

 

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^^ A blast from the past!  One of my very first youtube videos from 5 years ago titled Choosing Your First Sex Toy!  Some of the toys I display are a bit outdated but the info is timeless ;) 

 

 

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